Here's a little back story. I am one of four bridesmaids in an upcoming wedding. We'll call the other BMs A, B, and C. The bride wanted a shower, so her mother is paying for the bulk of the costs, but the BMs are in charge of favors, decorations, and games. BM A lives in CA (we all east coast people) and announced she couldn't afford to fly in for the shower, so she would not be contributing. BM B is local to the bride and the shower, but she emailed all the bridesmaids to say that she was very busy and didn't have time or money to contribute to the shower. BM C just had a baby and is understandably a little MIA. That leaves me. So I felt badly that no one could contribute and have taken on the rest of the shower planning (and the costs!) myself.
Now the bride has decided she wants a bachelorette party. Nobody offered to throw her one, she just wants one. BM A and BM C have already told her that they can't come. That leaves me and BM B. If BM B didn't have time to plan a shower, I'm sure she didn't volunteer to organize this either. I'll be damned if I'm organizing something else by myself- but the bride has no problem doing it all herself. Now am I wrong that the bride is rude for expecting these parties and then planning it herself? Is there any subtle way of explaining that if nobody offers to throw it for her, then she just shouldn't have the party? FYI she basically did the same thing for the shower.
May 2013 February Siggy: Invitations