Send out inquires of intent?

leedpro

My fiance' and I both come from relatively large families.  His is from Michigan and my family is primarly from Minnesota.  We are having our wedding in Colorado. We have heard from both of our parents that they don't believe either of us will have much family there but we don't want to NOT include anyone in the inviatations.  But the number of people determines where we can have our ceremony.  what would be a polite way of asking people whether or not they would be able to travel so far for a wedding ceremony?

lilianne22

If you aren't getting married until 2013 (like it says in your bio) you shouldn't ask people this far out if they can make it or not.  I wouldn't even worry about a venue until at least a year/year and a half out unless you are looking at a holiday weekend. 

If you really want to pick a venue now...make up a guest list based on who you want to invite.  Then pick a venue that can accommodate that number of people. 

MyNameIsNot

There's not a formal way to ask ahead of the RSVP date, just before the wedding.  You can informally ask around when you speak with relatives, and get an idea, but you still need to be prepared for the max.  You could just keep a small guest list.

mkrupar

Ditto PP - If you're wedding isn't until 2013 I wouldn't even worry about this right now. There's no polite way to do what you are asking. That's like asking someone if they can commit to your 30th B-Day party when you just turned 27 this year. The first thing you need to do is figure out a budget. You may find that your budget may not be able to accommodate all of those people anyway. Get a budget in place first and everything else should follow.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]My fiance' and I both come from relatively large families.  His is from Michigan and my family is primarly from Minnesota.  We are having our wedding in Colorado. We have heard from both of our parents that they don't believe either of us will have much family there but we don't want to NOT include anyone in the inviatations.  But the number of people determines where we can have our ceremony.  what would be a polite way of asking people whether or not they would be able to travel so far for a wedding ceremony?
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