Wedding Etiquette Forum

seating question

We invited a coworker of mine and her husband. She is coming to ceremony + reception, but the husband is a police officer and will not be able to make it to the reception until after dinner is over. He is planning to stop by for the rest of the party, though. 

My question is this - if he's not coming to dinner, does he need a specific seat? In my experience/circle, after dinner is over, people rarely stay at their table or in their chairs. They dance, mingle, sit and chat at other tables, etc. I'm leaning towards erring on the side of caution and assuming he will be there for dinner just in case he gets off early or something, but they only issue there is that if my coworker attends dinner alone, she'll be the 8th at an 8 person table made up of coworkers. If her husband is able to make it, they'll need to be seated at a different table with people they don't know, and they aren't terribly social people. Certainly not a deal breaker, but I know she'd want to eat and be most comfortable with the people she already knows. 
Wedding Countdown Ticker

Re: seating question

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_seating-question-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:534a139b-ed06-455f-929a-6b09381c93b0Post:bfb71dd7-cc0c-41a9-9d27-82a685a2dd12">Re: seating question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Can you just cram a 9th person at the table or will it be really squished? I think seating 9 at an 8 top is better than having them sit with strangers, or risking him getting off work early and having no where to sit during dinner.<strong> If you ca n't fit in one extra chair, move their favorite couple with them, and move two couples that know each other the coworker table, this way everyone knows someone at their table</strong>. EDIT in bold, oops.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

    <div>Actually, FI grew up with my manager..we'd included her at the coworker table, but there's no reason she and her husband can't sit with the other grade school friends. They all still know each other. That might be the solution. </div>
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • Are you assigning tables?  If so, I'd just put a space for him at the same table you're putting his wife at.
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards