I am getting married next summer. Not my or his first marriage. We are "older", with children [his grown, mine still at home] and have been living together for the past year.
Everyone we'll invite to the wedding knows our situation.
We do not want gifts and there certainly isn't anything we need.
Still, I think putting "no gifts please" on the invitations is inappropriate. To me, it sounds like we expect people to give a gift but we're giving them permission not to, KWIM?
I think the better course is to spread the word amongst our friends and family that their attendance, rather than material goods, is the gift.
My mother says absolutely not, that the "proper" thing to do is put "no gifts please" on the invitations.
What say you all?