I am having somewhat of a "destination wedding" in the city my fiance is from. All of the bridesmaids will be coming from out of town. Because they are spread out all over the country (from California to the East Coast), most of them couldn't afford to make two trips within the seven months of my engagement.
I have provided them with hotel rooms for 5 nights, and they will all be arriving at the destination on the Tuesday before the wedding. The Maid of Honor is hosting a shower on the night after we all arrive, which is also the night before the rehearsal dinner. The guest list includes bridesmaids, my mom and stepmother, and my fiance's mom. This was the only way that we could all be there at the same time. MOH has already reserved the restaurant and paid for the refreshments. MOH wants this to be a "honey do" shower where the guests are encouraged to bring a gift relating to household chores. I know it's usually frowned on to have a shower so close to the wedding, so I was wondering if we need to make this just a "welcome party" for the bridesmaids or if it's ok to proceed with it as a shower.