Reminding a Guest to Re-send a Gift

kristenlynn79

A family member gave us a really nice piece of our china for our wedding gift, but it was backordered for several months.  In the interim the family member changed credit card numbers, so when the piece of china arrived at the store, the department store couldn't charge for the piece because the card number had changed.  Neither I nor the family member was notified that the gift had been cancelled.  When I finally sorted out what happened and told the family member their gift had never been sent, they told me they would contact the department store and re-order.  It's been several more months and they haven't re-ordered.  Is there a tactful way to remind them?  

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]A family member gave us a really nice piece of our china for our wedding gift, but it was backordered for several months.  In the interim the family member changed credit card numbers, so when the piece of china arrived at the store, the department store couldn't charge for the piece because the card number had changed.  Neither I nor the family member was notified that the gift had been cancelled.  When I finally sorted out what happened and told the family member their gift had never been sent, they told me they would contact the department store and re-order.  It's been several more months and they haven't re-ordered.  Is there a tactful way to remind them?  
<p>Posted by kristenlynn79@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>No. If they had told you that they'd re-ordered and it hadn't arrived, I would think it would be ok to ask them if they'd heard from the store, as there could be an issue with the store sending the gift that you'd need to get to the bottom of. However, if they simply haven't re-ordered as you state, you can't exactly start hounding them to do so. </p>

banana468

Nope.  Unfortunately you need to let it go.  If it comes up (by THEM), just say, "Oh no we never received it."

Mrs.B6302007

Yeah, I don't see how you can do this without coming across as rude.  If it were me, I'd just let it go. Like banana said, if it's ever brought up by the giver, then you can tell them you didn't receive it.

lindej2

Agree with PP. It would be rude to ask for them to re-order the gift.

momofayden

I wouldn't send them a thank you note for a gift you never received.  That sounds weird to me.  I would have the store contact them and ask them if they want to proceed with the order.  Maybe they just forgot about it.

hataouchi

If you feel like you want to give it a last shot, maybe you could send them a thank you note for them thinking of you. Did they attend your wedding? Forgive me because I'm not the greatest at writing either, but how about something like, "Thank you for taking the time to join us celebrate our special day / Thank you for thinking of us on our special day. We really appreciate your thoughtfulness in ordering the beautiful china. We can't wait for it to arrive so we can use it." Or something a bit more vague like, "We appreciate your thoughtfulness in picking out such beautiful china." 

And like everyone else says, if you don't hear from them, let it go.