2nd Wedding at 55!!!

MissLily55

What should I do????  Lots of children both sides!  Dont know what to wear!  Dont know what to do about bridesmaids with children from both sides.  I am feeling overwhelmed and just want to forget about the whole thing,  KISS has been suggested, but i cant even imagine that!!!

jennylee813

Congrats!

PP is right - figure out what you want and then fill in the details.

There's a lot of guilt/stress associated with second weddings (been there, doing that). Stop by the Second Weddings board if you haven't been there yet. It's great, and there's lots of helpful advice. Read "It's Normal" - that's great for perspective.

There are no rules. Talk to your FI and decide what you'd both like. If there are too many children to choose from and you don't want any hurt feelings, why not choose a close friend to be MOH/BM? Have your children do readings (or just sit proudly by). Maybe a destination wedding is more your speed, where it can be a vacation with a wedding somewhere in the middle (think family vacation, wedding, honeymoon all rolled into one). Or maybe something quiet at home? Really, your choices are limitless.

Good luck with it, and welcome aboard!

Jen4948

Congratulations!

Whatever you decide to do, take things one step at a time.  You don't have to do everything all at once.

It would be kind of you to involve all the children at least.  You can have as formal or informal a wedding as you like.  Best wishes!

radleyboo

Congratulations!

Like you, I'm planning a second wedding too, and frankly, it's a lot more fun this time around.  FI and I are footing the bill, with some small contributions from family, but we asked for nothing and have the good fortune to be able to to whatever we'd like. 

Take a moment and breathe.  There is no rush.  You can take as long as you want to plan, and do whatever makes you and your FI happy. 

I second the PP about the Second Weddings board, there are wonderful women there who can give you sound advice. 

Congrats again and enjoy this special time!

Kristin789

To the left, you'll see a category called SPECIAL TOPIC WEDDING BOARDS.  Click it.

Now you see that the first board is called 40 PLUS BRIDES.  Click it.

And that's a community of older brides, first and second and third time brides, who are dealing with exactly the issues you've asked here - and they know the answers.  Ask you questions there.