No idea where to start on this one - need advice

whits900

I posted on here a while ago about my MOH who asked me if I wanted her to drop out. Long story short, she has now dropped out and is no longer invited to the wedding. I have known her and her parents for almost 15 years, and she informed me that her parents have already sent a wedding present and "do with it what I will".  I'm not really sure what to do - I don't want to put them in the middle of it - I'm not even sure if I returned it if they would get a refund or if it would go to a "credit" on the registry. Basically just want to do the right thing by them.

JessAndTrav

Your drama with their adult child shouldn't affect your relationship with them in a realisitic world.

I don't know the backstory here, but if you still have a good relationship with the parents, then accept the gift as you would any other gift.

If you return a gift from your registry, you get store credit.

TheSaltyPeanut

why would you return a gift from her parents?  Did they ask you to return it?

britne28

So she's dropping out as a guest as well?  Did you want her to drop out?

georgia_bride09

Send them a gracious thank you note for the gift.

I'm confused as to why you're confused, TBH.

[Deleted User]

I wouldn't make the situation worse by bringing her parents into it.  If they gave you a gift, I'd accept it and send a thank you. 

squirrly

Send them a thank you note.  If her parents didn't want to send a gift, they wouldn't.  Sounds like she's just trying to create extra drama. 

How did she go from wanting to be a BM to this, anyway?

cmhershey

You do what you would do with any gift you recieve for you wedding.  Accept and send a thank you.

bbyckes

Just because you don't have a relationship with your friend, it doesn't erase the years  you've shared with her family.  I would accept the gift and send a wonderful thank-you note.  There's no need to return it.  I'm sure her parents would still want you to have it.

tenofcups4me

Agree with the others -- send a nice thank you to the parents. If you were planning on inviting them originally, go ahead and still invite them. They can decline if they want.

Kati0105

How did she go from wanting to be a BM to this, anyway?

I'm pretty sure OP is on my club board and it's a case of MOH not supporting OP marrying her FI.

danieliza1127

Keep the gift and send them a sincere thank you note.  They aren't part of whatever is going on between you and her.

squirrly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_idea-start-this-one-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:553e52df-fe5e-456a-b50d-1885e22e5a33Post:08dbf907-6a3e-41a7-b3df-5df2598ce6f9">Re: No idea where to start on this one - need advice</a>:
[QUOTE]How did she go from wanting to be a BM to this, anyway? I'm pretty sure OP is on my club board and it's a case of MOH not supporting OP marrying her FI.
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

I remember that from the original post, but she seemed to civil about it, still wanted to be there for the OP, whatnot.  So to go from MOH to not even willing to come to the wedding as a guest, seems drastic.

Kati0105

She posted this on March 2010 yesterday:

I don't know if any of you remember my "drama" with my MOH would asked if I wanted her to step down as MOH, but yesterday she emailed me and "begged" me not to marry FI.