we are having our wedding in a different province from where we live, I want to send out save the dates but not sure if i want to actually invite my whole family to the wedding...how should I handle this? do/can I send out save the dates and put on there that if they plan to attend, to rsvp in order to recieve an actual wedding invitation in the future? I know most of my family will not come, but my mom wants to only invite a couple people and I feel uncomfortable just inviting them, so I am trying to find a way to include everyone but not include them... if they all decide to go, it will be ridiculous... my fiance's mom already has her list over 300 people, to which we already told her that there is NO way we are having that many people and just from her list alone...