Bridesmaids from hell

shellydiane820

Is it just me or does it seem like there's a lot of posts about rude bridesmaids?

Since when do they think they are in charge of the wedding?

laurenclaire1386

I haven't come across that many terrible BM posts, but I've been gone for a few days.

Also, you are absolutely gorgeous. Love the new sig pic.

shellydiane820

Thanks

There is the one the girl just posted below, poli posted one last night and I was thinking I read one the other day, maybe not though.

laurenclaire1386

I commented on the one below, and I saw Poli's, though I didn't read it. Makes me thank my lucky stars my BMs are extremely easy going.

SarahPLiz

I people get into this suspended reality of wedding planning, where all respect, friendship, and love gets thrown out of the window in order to create the perfect vision that someone has been dreaming up all their lives. Sometimes the BMs are trying to force their vision on the bride, and it comes across as jealousy.

It seems that these days people don't know how to honor and be honored without getting a big ego. EMotional intelligence is on the decline.

JessAndTrav

Yeah, I don't know what the deal is. I had 5 BMs, 3 of which were amazing. They constantly offered to help with things, got their dresses right away, etc. I had 2 that didn't. They got their dresses in late November for our December wedding, didn't make it to events, and never offered to do anything.

I get that they're BMs not slaves, but I know that as a BM, I offer to help with things and do the things I've been asked to do in a timely manner. That's just part of it.

It was frustrating, but I just dealt with it. I never went crazy on them.

aMrsin09

I don't know what the deal is, but it makes me very glad that our WP was aMr's teenaged kids.  They HAD to do what we told them.

shellydiane820

I just can't imagine being like that, and I've been a bridesmaid a couple of times.  You get the dress and deal, even if its kind of ugly.  Nobody is looking at the bridesmaid anyway.  Its all about the couple.

crfische

Ya know, there's a balance. Should bridesmaids be able to plan your wedding and the bride should be all walking on eggshells around them to make sure they are happy? No.

Should the bride pick a dress that knowingly will make someone uncomfortable and/or be not flattering on someone? No.

I find it amazing that people who have their nearest and dearest in their lives in their wedding have THAT many problems.

It's not like...if you plan a wedding you should get an honorary degree in rocket science or anything. Just be a courteous, gracious human being like you would in any other are in your life, and all should be good.

Like, where you do want to go to dinner? I'm not really feeling McDonalds, but Arby's is good. Does that work for you? Sure I can find something there. In some instances, you might have to run through two drive thrus and not get the same meal, but you'll still both be full and friends at the end and it won't ruin anyone's pictures.