My FI and I are trying to keep our guest list pretty low (around 125 people) in order to be able to use the venue we like without being charged an extra $3,000 for an additional room and the higher food and beverage minimum to meet. My fiance and I did our guest list by taking out our mutual friends and putting them on the list and then dividing the number of invites left between the two of us so we each can invite the same number of people. This way we each have our allowed number of people and can invite whoever we want without arguing about him having more people than me or vice versa. My parents are paying for the wedding and we are paying for the honeymoon and possibly a few other things. My mom is always upset that I don't particularly want some of the people she wants me to because of our desire to have a smaller wedding and reception. She is wanting me to invite all of her extended family (her cousins and all of their families) which would be close to 40 people or more. I barely know most of these people and am not close to any of them at all. If i invited all of them that would mean that I would have to cut out a lot of people that are my friends or that I am close to. I understand that this is her celebration too and that she is paying for the wedding but it seems a bit unfair to make me cut out people I am close to so that she could invite all of her extended family whom I have only met a few times. Justin's parents won't be inviting their extended family like this and my dad won't either. But since their families are larger than hers she sees it as me excluding her family. However, in reality we would be making a special exception for her family. So can anyone help me out? What's the proper etiquette here? I want my mom to enjoy the wedding and reception but I want to enjoy it too and be able to invite people I'm close to. Any suggestions on what to do?