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TimsGirl10

Ok- so there are more people that I want to invite to the wedding and not nessescarily the reception.  Is this considered rude?  Is hosting a "private" reception ok or should I just bite the bullet and realize that everyone I invite to the wedding will need to be invited to the reception? 

Part of the reason I ask is because I come from a relatively conservative/religious background, and a lot of people that I love and want to share my day with would be offended by the dancing at the reception.  Therefor, we were thinking about just inviting close friends/family to the reception, bypassing offending anyone with the dancing.  Thoughts?  Are private receptions ok etiquette wise? 

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Ok- so there are more people that I want to invite to the wedding and not nessescarily the reception.  Is this considered rude?  Is hosting a "private" reception ok or should I just bite the bullet and realize that everyone I invite to the wedding will need to be invited to the reception?  Part of the reason I ask is because I come from a relatively conservative/religious background, and a lot of people that I love and want to share my day with would be offended by the dancing at the reception.  Therefor, we were thinking about just inviting close friends/family to the reception, bypassing offending anyone with the dancing.  Thoughts?  Are private receptions ok etiquette wise? 
Posted by TimsGirl10[/QUOTE]
Absolutely rude.  If they are invited to the ceremony, they are also invited to the reception.

kellyjellybelly

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[QUOTE]Ok- so there are more people that I want to invite to the wedding and not nessescarily the reception.  Is this considered rude?  Is hosting a "private" reception ok or <strong>should I just bite the bullet and realize that everyone I invite to the wedding will need to be invited to the reception?</strong>  Part of the reason I ask is because I come from a relatively conservative/religious background, and a lot of people that I love and want to share my day with would be offended by the dancing at the reception.  Therefor, we were thinking about just inviting close friends/family to the reception, bypassing offending anyone with the dancing.  Thoughts?  Are private receptions ok etiquette wise? 
Posted by TimsGirl10[/QUOTE]
Yes, it's rude to only invite people to the ceremony and not the reception.  <div>FI family is very religious/conservative as well.  They are coming to the wedding.  If they are uncomfortable by the dancing/drinking at the reception, they are free to leave early.  Is your family aware that there will be dancing?  If they know upfront, they can make the decision themselves if they want to attend or not.  </div>

Mrs.B6302007

If they're offended by the dancing, they can leave early. I grew up Southern Baptist and all of our church weddings and fellowship hall receptions were dance and alcohol-free.  They were pretty much punch and cake receptions.  However, many people in the church who were less conservative would host receptions somewhere else and offer dancing and alcohol.  It never bothered me but some of the more conservative folks would stay through dinner and then either leave or just not participate in the dancing and drinking.

Kristin&eric

yes i would think it eould be rude. If they are that conservative about not dancing well to bad its your wedding you aren't going to make everyone happy

[Deleted User]

You can't please everyone and you need to be happy and do what you are your FI want on your special day. The others can take it or leave, their choice. I don't why people can suck stuff like this up and deal for one day if they truly care about the couple and want to be a part of their special day.

LD1970

Bite the bullet.  If they don't like the dancing, they can leave.

beatlesgirl25

Ditto MrsB. Let them decide if it's offensive enough to make them not want to be there. By not inviting them to the reception, you're not protecting them, you're offending them.

PetraStonegirl

My FI's family is very conservative So Baptist and are packing up the whole family and coming out to the wild, wild west for our wedding. There will be alcohol and dancing if folks feel like it. They know this and are prepared. The flip side is that I'm wearing a bolero jacket over my dress to cover my shoulder-to-elbow tattoo, and my wilder friends are respecting the cultural differences. 

I will say that some couples/pastors/churches announce the upcoming wedding in services the week before, and members of the congregation who wish, come to the ceremony to witness the event. However, as they are not invited guests, they do not continue on to the reception. Is this what you were trying to ask?