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Re: Newbie Observation

  • Sidenote: Nattie, I love your sig pic. FI is obsessed with that movie and he's not really into those kinds of movies.
  • Stepping off soap box - hmmm... how is that not self-righteous?  You said it yourself.  Find a new choir to preach too.  Local and month boards are good at bad ideas.
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    [QUOTE]I need a cookie. 
    Posted by Nattie24[/QUOTE]


    My thoughts exactly.
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  • Okay, so this has been posted before, I must have missed it. So I'm not the first person to come here and see that the "Etiquette" board has some harsh threads.

    I really didn't mean to make anyone upset, I'm truly a laid back person and don't take things seriously. That is why I was so surprised to see some of the replies.

    It's all good. Not that big of a deal I thought I was being helpful. But you all are right, I didn't mean to come in here and try to get on a high horse.

    Wedding date July 7, 2012
  • Carla, do you usually find it helfpul in your every day life when someone walks into a room full of adults and tells them how to do what they're already doing? I think most people find that patronizing and intrusive.
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    [QUOTE]Okay, so this has been posted before, I must have missed it. So I'm not the first person to come here and see that the "Etiquette" board has some harsh threads. I really didn't mean to make anyone upset, I'm truly a laid back person and don't take things seriously. That is why I was so surprised to see some of the replies. It's all good. Not that big of a deal I thought I was being helpful. But you all are right, I didn't mean to come in here and<strong> try to get on a high horse.</strong>
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]
    Nope, just a soap box. Just a bad, IMO. <div>
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  • Carla if you really think the dynamics of this board need changed, well then I challenge you to jump in to the posted conversations and tell us how it's done more often.  That's how you facilitate change, not by preaching.

    So I look forward to seeing your future ideas in other posts. 
  • PP - you keep saying i'm trying to change the board and change how people act.

    That is not correct. As I said before I'm not P.C. and I know i post things that come out wrong. But I would not want to be persoanally attacked by a vent.

    Another person said it best, this is not the place to vent and I get it now.
    Wedding date July 7, 2012
  • I think there's a quota of one of these a week.

    E is an honest board, and honesty sometimes comes across as harsh.  But if people don't have the common sense to lurk and get an idea of how people interact here, and decide if it's really a place for them, then I don't feel sorry for them if they get their feelings hurt.

    And I feel even less sorry for them if they don't consider that making sweeping generalizations (as in the gas tank thread) to a board full of people from all over the world and all walks of life is maybe not going to be received well.
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    [QUOTE]PP - you keep saying i'm trying to change the board and change how people act. That is not correct. As I said before I'm not P.C. and I know i post things that come out wrong. But I would not want to be persoanally attacked by a vent. Another person said it best, this is not the place to vent and I get it now.
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

    You came in here telling people to be nicer and not attack people.  How is that NOT trying to change the board and how people act on it?
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    [QUOTE]PP - you keep saying i'm trying to change the board and change how people act. That is not correct. As I said before I'm not P.C. and I know i post things that come out wrong. But I would not want to be persoanally attacked by a vent.<strong> Another person said it best, this is not the place to vent and I get it now.</strong>
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]


    No, I'm sorry - you don't get it.  There is currently 2 posts that just started that consist of vents.  Nobody is going off on them.  You are trying to change the board, that's what your soap box was for, remember?  It's all here in black and white.  Deny it if you'd like. 
  • This is why TK Gods created local and club boards. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen.
  • I'm late to this because I was having a nervous breakdown in another thread in which I got nothing but support and total non-judgement from all these horrible (but intelligent) biitches.

    I have to ask, and I am actually asking this as a question- not as a passive agressive attack, just who do you think you are and do you really think you're the first person to try to "change" the dynamic of this board?
  • Trust me! I'm not intimidated by people who say things online that they wouldn't say to my face in person.

    Bottom line: I was wrong for starting this post, I see that now. Can we continue with our day now....
    Wedding date July 7, 2012
  • No we need to live up to our knot reputation and be bitches a little while longer!




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    [QUOTE]Trust me! I'm not intimidated by people who say things online that they wouldn't say to my face in person. <strong>Bottom line: I was wrong for starting this post, I see that now. Can we continue with our day now....</strong>
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]
    You opened this can of worms. Don't get all pissy when we want to discuss it with you.
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  • I love when people pull out the line about us not saying things to them in person.  You clearly don't know any of us.  However, if I was with a group of ladies talking how we normally do, and some random person knowing nothing about us walked in and said "wow, you ladies are all so judgmental and rude," you better be damn sure I would say something to that person.  Actually, I would probably say more in person, and tell the person to go eff themselves since I can't get banned IRL.
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    [QUOTE]Trust me! I'm not intimidated by people who say things online that they wouldn't say to my face in person. Bottom line: I was wrong for starting this post, I see that now. Can we continue with our day now....
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

    Oh I love this, the old "Yea, you're tough on the internet" insult.  Why do you assume that if you behaved this way in the flesh, you wouldn't be met with the same response?  The fact is you would not behave this way in the flesh...walking into a room where people were behaving in a manner which was less than pleasing to you would result in you looking for another room in which to rest your feet, not in you dragging a box to the middle of the room so that you could admonish the evil-doers.  We're reacting in a reasonable way to your unreasonable behaviors. 
  • no one is pissy! When people win a disagreement, then be happy! I truly get it and lesson learned.

    But if you still need to keep going... knock yourself out.
    Wedding date July 7, 2012
  • I love it when people pull out the whole "you wouldn't say this to my faaaaace" card. As a human being with a good sense of common courtesy there is a lot I wouldn't say to people's faces, but that is more of an indication that I understand social situations and how to deal with them. Not that the computer screen gives me courage. BUT IT DOES YOU CAN'T TOUCH ME
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  • edited May 2011
    So you deleted because you're not intimidated by what people online have to say about you. Riiight.

    By the way, you were quoted so it's not just going to go away.

    Edited for grammar.
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    [QUOTE]no one is pissy! When people win a disagreement, then be happy! I truly get it and lesson learned. But if you still need to keep going... knock yourself out.
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

    <div>We didn't win because you're quitting.  And the thing is, you're not getting the point we're trying to say to you.  You think you've solved it by saying "no vent posts here," but that's not it at all.</div>
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  • If someone came up to me IRL tell me I was rude I would be all up in their face telling them to ack right and throwing some 'bows.

    Not really. It would all be in my head like Fight Club because I'm a coward. Unless I'm drunk. Then all bets are off.
  • Alright, I do get that there is stress that builds up in certain wedding related and personal things but when someone vents about something they are opening up a debate of the situation being vented about. I have seen venting where the Bride/whoever has justification of her stress, then I see people who are getting way too worked up over little things that really in the end shouldn't matter, then they're ones that are totally in the wrong mindset about the whole thing situation and need a wake up call of their behavior. 

    Personally, if a Bride/whoever needs to vent about something and doesn't want any chance of being told the way she is handling is wrong or poorly needs to buy a journal to write in. But if a Bride decides to post a vent on any message board she is taking the chance of getting opinions that may not be to her liking (same goes with when people are looking for advice). 

    So that's my two cents about this topic.
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    [QUOTE]delete
    Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

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  • You know those little blue boxes? They mean that even if you delete, everyone can still see what you wrote. Congratulations. It's preserved.
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    [QUOTE]I love it when people pull out the whole "you wouldn't say this to my faaaaace" card. As a human being with a good sense of common courtesy there is a lot I wouldn't say to people's faces, but that is more of an indication that I understand social situations and how to deal with them. Not that the computer screen gives me courage. <strong>BUT IT DOES YOU CAN'T TOUCH ME</strong>
    Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]



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    edited May 2011

    *POOF* and it's all gone.

    Except it's not.  It happened.  You're quoted. 

    And I <3 Birdie... 

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    That is all.

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    [QUOTE]Alright, I do get that there is stress that builds up in certain wedding related and personal things but when someone vents about something they are opening up a debate of the situation being vented about. I have seen venting where the Bride/whoever has justification of her stress, then I see people who are getting way too worked up over little things that really in the end shouldn't matter, then they're ones that are totally in the wrong mindset about the whole thing situation and need a wake up call of their behavior. <strong> Personally, if a Bride/whoever needs to vent about something and doesn't want any chance of being told the way she is handling is wrong or poorly needs to buy a journal to write in. But if a Bride decides to post a vent on any message board she is taking the chance of getting opinions that may not be to her liking (same goes with when people are looking for advice).</strong>  So that's my two cents about this topic.
    Posted by AutumnFair[/QUOTE]

    Yes, this. There are plenty of ways to personally vent in the privacy of your own thoughts. If you don't want opinions, don't post to a public message board.
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