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MillieMae92

WHATEVER

Meegles4

You're pleasant.

aragx6

I think it's you who needs a lesson in etiquette. Asking for money from your parents is beyond gauche.

MrsKathyC

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:f9fd99b5-4676-4fdc-a784-f1ccab9d4a2a">Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi, I need help explaining proper wediquette to FMIL. I have taken the time to plan my wedding WITHOUT the help of a planner (thanks so much, generous family! lol), but now I'm running into problems. My parents are giving us the $20,000 I asked for, we're using $5000 of our own money, and FI's parents were asked to give the remaining $15000 that we need for our wedding to be nice. FMIL has been saying some really rude things lately about my wedding, like how 10 bridesmaids is a lot and it would have been nice if I would have included FSIL. She got married when FI (then BF) and I first started dating and I wasn't included in the wedding party or even mentioned in the programs. Why should I invite her now? My plan is to show FMIL this post and the responses so she can see exactly what changed should be made. TIA for your help!!!!!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

LOL.  That's all I got!

midgetthemighty

How strange. People always treat ME so nicely when I demand they give me $15,000 of their own hard-earned cash.

semay23

um seriously?

Avion22

You mean after asking her to pay THREE TIMES WHAT YOU YOURSELF are contributing to YOUR OWN WEDDING, she isn't thrilled ot have you for a DIL?  

MyUserName1

Your FMIL doesn't seem to have any etiquette problems except for that charming FDIL she's got.

Carrie81677

Wow...um...are you for real?

You shouldn't be asking for money.  If people offer, you're fortunate, but asking for cash is rude.

People can have "nice" weddings for far less than $40K, and to imply otherwise is rude to the people on here who have done exactly that.

The number of bridesmaids, and who those bridesmaids are, is your prerogative, but 10 is...on the high end.

mari0225

wow...just wow

semay23

this has got to be a joke, right?

Meegles4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:645f8a88-a458-44cc-af56-23f9649c48e6">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL : She's also almost 3x my age. Why should we be expected to pay the same amount as people who have had way longer to save up?
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

Because she's not expected to save up for YOUR wedding. It's YOUR wedding. If people don't offer to help, you pay for it yourself.

Avion22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:645f8a88-a458-44cc-af56-23f9649c48e6">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL : She's also almost 3x my age. Why should we be expected to pay the same amount as people who have had way longer to save up?
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

<div>My husband and I were prepared to pay for our entire wedding.  My parents OFFERED us a GIFT of money, which covered maybe 1/4 of the wedding costs.  The rest we paid ourselves.   They are twice our age and make about three times as much money as we do.</div>

S6ix

OP are you for real? Did you say please when you asked for someone else to pay for your wedding? I'm sure that would have helped. lol ETA you DID get good advice. Quit being so ridiculous and pay for your own wedding like 99% of the rest of us do.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:88a41ce9-f712-4eec-ac62-8dea2f7f7070">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]My bad! I thought this site was for brides to get good advice from other brides. NOT a freaking roast! You all need to check your priorities!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

Yawn.  boring troll is boring.

Mrs.B6302007

TIme to get the troll spray.

MrsKathyC

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:4661866b-9ad4-4593-81a0-1aa14cb3bd54">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]this has got to be a joke, right?
Posted by semay23[/QUOTE]

I would hope so!  It suspiciously hits on a lot of the "hot" Etiquette topics.

Avion22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:88a41ce9-f712-4eec-ac62-8dea2f7f7070">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]My bad! I thought this site was for brides to get good advice from other brides. NOT a freaking roast! You all need to check your priorities!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>WE need to check OUR priorities?  I'll get right on that...

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Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:88a41ce9-f712-4eec-ac62-8dea2f7f7070">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]My bad! I thought this site was for brides to get good advice from other brides. NOT a freaking<strong> pot </strong>roast! You all need to check your priorities!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]


FTFY

midgetthemighty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:645f8a88-a458-44cc-af56-23f9649c48e6">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL : She's also almost 3x my age. Why should we be expected to pay the same amount as people who have had way longer to save up?
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

Is she a physic? If not, she's had the same amount of time as you to save up for your wedding. Try another excuse.

dumdumfroggie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:47d525e2-0fab-4c72-b563-6a6f731c3098">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL : Yawn.  boring troll is boring.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>Yep, now off to wonder what username will come up next that will be N-N.  NiftyNimcompoop?</div>

pokepoke27

Wow.

It's no one else's responsibility to pay for YOUR wedding.

Maggie0829

Here I will give you the answer that you so absolutely want.

OMG, your FMIL is such a biotch!  I can't believe she isn't just rolling over and letting you step all over her because you know it is YOUR wedding day after all.  How dare she demand such crazy things from you and stress you out because you are the bride and should haven't to lift your pinkie finger for your wedding day.  Wedding = all about the bride.  Your FMIL should feel so grateful that you are giving her the gift of spending a sh*t ton of money on you just so you can have your PPD and she can feel involved.  I would so be jumping up and down and stomping my feet in a temper tamtrum because of this crazy woman that you will get to call MIL

** Italic font = sarcasm

gurrlballa10

WTF?

starrynight84

OMG, I TOTALLY believe you're real. 

.....

ETA: I know you added the 92 in that username because you wanted everyone to comment on how young you are, so I will give that gift to you. 

92?? Is that the year you were born?? No wonder you have attitude problems. 

ootmother2

Joined the knot today?

MUD

S6ix

So, what sport did you play? Did you say please when you asked your FMIL for money?

starrynight84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:4f07309e-d03e-4fda-9765-256ae41b3e05">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]So, what sport did you play? Did you say please when you asked your FMIL for money?
Posted by S6ix[/QUOTE]

<div>LOL. We eagerly await your answers, Milly Mae (not 19)92. </div>

Habs2Hart

kd.joseph

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:a53749d9-17ac-497d-912b-36dd5e49a916">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]And the date I joined matters, too? Give me a freaking break!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

Because no one who has lurked here would have even bothered to ask this question.

If you are real, you need the etiquette lesson not your MIL.

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-explain-etiquette-to-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:57325172-1139-4461-a6b2-6314e5c3eda7Post:774551d0-2df2-46a3-8e60-f847b453cdb3">Re: Help explain etiquette to FMIL</a>:
[QUOTE]So I ask a question and now I'm not real. Kinda makes me wonder why these message boards exist. I can't imagine wanting to post here again!!! So using a number in my screen name means that's the year I was born? Wtf. Maybe it was my number in a sport I played in college. Glad you know me so well!
Posted by MillieMae92[/QUOTE]

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