Invitation and Response Card Etiquette

rdavidson827

My FI and I are trying to keep the cost down for our wedding and also the amount of people.

With that said, I decided to order inner envelopes (even though extra postage would incur) to make sure that if a single person was invited, who was not in a relationship, I could address the inner envelope to them only.  It was mainly to alleviate people just bringing a random person to the wedding.  Out of all our single people, I don't see but one or two maybe trying to do that.  Also, there are some that are invited, husband and wife, or an engaged couple etc where the children are not invited, hence also the inner envelope stating the Mr. and Mrs. only etc. 

Now my question is this...On the response card where it indicates _____ of _____ is it bad etiquette to already enter the number of the original party as _____ of 4 ?  That way the original number of who is actually invited is on the response card and they just have to note how many out of that invited?

I've looked around to see if I could find an answer but haven't been able too.

Thanks so much...

Maggie0829

No I do not think this is wrong.  Some people put X seats have been reserved in your name as well on the RSVP to show how many people are truly invited.  Just know that doing this will still not 100% prevent people from RSVPing for more then was invited.  I would also leave so wiggle room in your budget for those single friends who may get into a relationship between now and your wedding.

Also, inner envelopes are really not necessary to designate who and who is not invited.  I didn't have an inner envelope so on the outer (and only) envelope I listed who was invited.  So if you are inviting Pat and Bill Jones just put Mr. and Mrs. Jones  Or if you are inviting April Smith and Jerry John then put Ms. April Smith and Mr. Jerry John.

StephJean83

I just got an invite/response card and the invitation was addressed to my FH and I(outter envelope/inner sleeve) and on the response card it said that 2 seats had been reserved in our honor, listed our names again and than had spot to accept or decline. Our roommate is also invited to the wedding and since he isn't in a relationship(or isn't making it public, even to us) he is invited just himself. His response card said one spot was reserved in his honor with his name listed and spots to accept or decline.

lauralaur

I think people have found using that language on their response cards that when inviting Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Mr. Smith can't make it but since 2 seats have been reserved, Mrs. Smith would like to bring her friend Susan, or Mr. and Mrs. Smith have children so one child will attend in Mr. Smith's place. I think the only way to really foolproof it is to list the number of seats and repeat the names of those invited, and even then you may still have people who think it doesn't apply to them.

But, the way you're planning to do them should head off some on your guest list that may try to add people.