post-wedding etiquette

spudley

I am the mom of the bride.  The wedding was this past weekend.  The groom's parents were major contributors in everything (at their request).  They hosted the rehearsal dinner and a morning-after brunch.  They also paid $10k towards the wedding.  What is appropriate for me to show them how much we all appreciate what they did, as well as letting them know how happy we are to have them as part of our family?  Is there any protocol for parents thanking parents?

kmmssg

I think a heartfelt letter would be spot on.  Are you local to them?  Could you invite them to dinner?

ootmother2

You thanked them.  A note is fine but dn't act as though they lifted some major burden from your shoulders.  Their son and your daughter are the ones to do the major  thanking.

hoffse

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[QUOTE]I think a heartfelt letter would be spot on.  Are you local to them?  Could you invite them to dinner?
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>All of this.</div>

spudley

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[QUOTE]I think a heartfelt letter would be spot on.  Are you local to them?  Could you invite them to dinner?
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]

<div>No, they live about two houers away.  They really are wonderful people.</div>

tanyamary627

Were there any photos taken of the bride, groom, and all parents together?  You could order a print and send to them, I think that would be a nice way to show that you are happy to have them as part of your family, along with a heartfelt note.

I do agree with PP though, the bride & groom are the ones to do the major thanking!

itzMS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: post-wedding etiquette : No, they live about two houers away.  They really are wonderful people.
Posted by spudley[/QUOTE]

Is there a town you could meet at "in the middle" for a Sunday brunch or something? Invite your daughter and son in law as well and relive wedding memories. I think that reaching out to them in this way would be a nice gesture if you feel so inclined.

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]You thanked them.  A note is fine but dn't act as though they lifted some major burden from your shoulders. <strong><font color="#0000ff"> Their son and your daughter are the ones to do the major  thanking.</font></strong>
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

Amen!