Are we invited or what?

Carla1019

FI was hand delivered a wedding invitation from a co-worker that did not have our names on the outside envelope or on the invitation. I didn't see an RSVP card either.

Do we just show up? Am I invited or just my FI? I'm confused.

kaitlyn&henry

Its odd a name/names werent even on the envelope...I would simply have FI ask the co-worker how/when to RSVP and ask also if you are invited as well. (i would assume he is at least invited since he was given and invite. Announcements are usually given instead if not invited).  What was the conversation when he was given the invite, if any?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

We got one like that once. It had my husband's name "and family" on the outside. BUT the wedding was in India and they invited like 700 people.

amanda1611t

"hi co worker, i was just wondering when the Rsvp is for the wedding. Also, there were no names on the envelope, was it just for me?"

I dealt with the same situation

scooterpie7

Although of course it is the 'way' now, in very strict/traditional etiquette including a response card is bad manners as it implies your guests don't have the courtesy or ability to figure out how to reply on their own. In the very strictest etiquette, even putting 'RSVP' on the cards is less proper than not mentioning it all, since guests should assume a reply is warranted. 

Where there is no date, I would think it is proper just to reply as soon as possible.