dun dun dunnnnnn... the ex...

cnderella83

My wedding was 6 months ago and was the most wonderful day of my life! My husband is amazing and is the most important person in my life and I am so blessed to have found him. I love our life together.
Before I met my husband I was dating a my ex- for 3 years- we discussed marriage and were serious about our future. It didn't work and I broke it off 2 days after we got engaged- returned the ring and moved on. 2 years later I met my husband and hapily ever after:)

My ex and I are face book friends- but really i'm not too interested- we broke uop for a reason and i am not interested in being involved in his life besides from a distance and on fb.

Turns out my ex- just got engaged- and has decided to start sending me daily updates about hius wedding- gave the poor girl the ring i gave back to him and is getting married on my wedding day. and invited my husband and i to the wedding and asked me to do a reading in the wedding. told me it would be a nice way of his new life to start. i haven't seen him in 4 years and have zero intentions to attend neverless be apart of it.

any ideas how to gracefully decline and cut the ties?
seriously... so weird...

MeaghanandMichael

Honestly, I probably would defriend and not respond. People like this take any excuse to continue the relationship and if it is making you uncomfortable you need to remove yourself from the scenario all together.

baystateapple

Tell him you think it would be inappropriate and then defriend him from FB.  Easy.

atayk21

Just say no, it would not be appropriate.

pumpkinpumpkin

My ex and I are face book friends- but really i'm not too interested- we broke uop for a reason and i am not interested in being involved in his life besides from a distance and on fb.

I don't know why you'd want to be FB friends with him but not in real life.

Delete him from your friends, tell him you're not interested, and leave it be.

EmmaBride2B

Unfriend unfriend unfriend unfriend unfriend unfriend unfriend unfriend.

kikibaby

Yep, that's awkward.  Just say you won't be able to make it to the wedding, but you wish him the best of luck.  Then defriend if you don't want him contacting you on FB anymore.

L-Bride

I would defriend him on FB and not feel awkward about it at all. I wouldn't want to be FB friends with any of my exs even though we aren't on bad terms.

If he sends you an invitation just decline and say you had a prior obligation...like your anniversary with your husband.

MissLeahM

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dun-dun-dunnnnnn-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:58866af5-a323-4245-9d58-83e6b3592013Post:8b6fb04d-829f-46e7-8fe0-530f4c7d434d">Re: dun dun dunnnnnn... the ex...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to dun dun dunnnnnn... the ex... :  "Sorry, but we have plans to celebrate our anniversary. I hope your wedding day is wonderful."
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

This +defriend.

cnderella83

just defriended:) thanks!!!!!!

pumpkinpumpkin

I don't know why you couldn't think of that on your own...

salt78

Yeah defriend and not respond. That guy sounds batshit. 

If I were that girl, I'd be pissed that I was given a ring that was given to his ex.

J&K10910

I don't get why anyone would be FB friends with someone they wouldn't want to be friends with IRL.  Even the TK people I'm FB friends with--if one of them was going to be in town and wanted to gtg, I'd be all over it.  So...I guess I don't really see why this is the slightest bit difficult.  Tell him that you're just not comfortable with it, and defriend it, because you obviously don't want to be involved in his life.  If you had never friended him in the first place, none of this would have happened, probably.

lizstill13

Unfriend him. Ignore the wedding invitation. Be happy that you got out when you did!

L-Bride

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dun-dun-dunnnnnn-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:58866af5-a323-4245-9d58-83e6b3592013Post:56bb630e-88bb-4cfd-9c93-ee806f30c5df">Re: dun dun dunnnnnn... the ex...</a>:
[QUOTE]Unfriend him. Ignore the wedding invitation. Be happy that you got out when you did!
Posted by lizstill13[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't completely ignore the wedding invitation. I would respond with the response card declining. If you ignore It's just asking for him to get in touch with you somehow asking if you're coming or not.

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dun-dun-dunnnnnn-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:58866af5-a323-4245-9d58-83e6b3592013Post:56bb630e-88bb-4cfd-9c93-ee806f30c5df">Re: dun dun dunnnnnn... the ex...</a>:
[QUOTE]Unfriend him. <strong>Ignore the wedding invitation</strong>. Be happy that you got out when you did!
Posted by lizstill13[/QUOTE]

Really?  I think she can probably handle sending back the "no" RSVP.  That's relatively painless.

Pirata13

What others said. Tell him you have anniversary plans and defriend him. And block him as well so he can't continue to send you messages, etc.

skippylouwho

I feel sorry for the girl he is marrying. Your engagement ring, on your wedding day and he wants you to do a reading at the wedding.

If this isn't a troll then I feel really sorry for the girl who is planning to marry him.

angiebear11

I would also block him on fb. Even though you've already de-friended him he can still view some of your info via mutual friends. I've blocked a couple of people on fb that I want absolutely no contact with.

wadingmoose

You know, it's posts like this that make me fear for the future of society.

Is it really that hard to make the connection to remove your ex as a FB friend?

annmarie2178

Thinking she needed another neighbor on farmville?  Otherwise, weirdness.