Co-Worker Invite Question... 1 Brand New Person

ccasey621

Hello!

In my previous post, I asked about inviting co-workers after being at a job for 6 months.  Although we don't hang out a lot outside of work, it's a small, close office and we do happy hours fairly frequently.  I decided to invite the people in my dept + a couple other ppl that I work closer with or consider friends. 

New issue- we had a new girl start Monday.  I sent my invites out on Monday.  She's in our department and the other 5 ppl are invited, so I feel it's just a nice guesture and polite to not leave her out.  I'm not really sure how to approach it though.  Should I just say "hey I know you just started here, so I completely understand if you can't make it or have other obligations, but I'd like to invite you since I'm inviting the entire department so we'd love to have you and your BF if you can make it."  Should I not invite her at all?  My reply by date is July 23... so I have to act quicly but I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. 

Mrs.B6302007

Hmm. I don't think I would say but I'd like to invite you since I'm inviting the entire department so we'd love to have you and your BF if you can make it  because it could be taken as "I wouldn't invite you otherwise", kwim?

What about something along the lines of "I know we don't really know each other well yet, but I'd like to invite you and your BF to our wedding.  It'll be a good time and Susie Coworker is a hoot!  I think you'll enjoy getting to know her a bit more."

I think you're doing the right thing by including her and letting her decide if she wants to come.

starrynight84

I think it would be a nice gesture to invite her, but understandable if you don't have the room. You're certainly not obligated to invite her.  

I would lean on the side of inviting her, just because she will be in your department, and in the long run that's a better foot to  start off on. She'll likely decline anyway. 

Mrs.B6302007

But Duds has a good point, too.  If I were new girl, it wouldn't bother me in the least either.

maribeth721

If I was the new girl I would feel awkward having been invited to your wedding the first week I started. She barely knows you, why would she even want to go? I would reserve her invitaiton for someone else.

kikirst33

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_co-worker-invite-question-1-brand-new-person?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:592c468f-dc09-4c0d-8ff7-0780688ed088Post:0febde2d-668d-4dd6-bcbd-7527dadf6c87">Re: Co-Worker Invite Question... 1 Brand New Person</a>:
[QUOTE]I wouldn't invite her.  I<strong> think it would be really awkward to be invited to a co-workers wedding the same week I started there. </strong> Also, I would understand that I'd just started working there and invitations had already gone out and would not feel snubbed or anything like that.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

<div>I was in this situation as a new employee and was invited to a co-workers wedding. It was weird and awkward.   I didn't know the groom very well and just felt very odd to be invited.</div>

ccasey621

Well I've only been at my job for 6 months... the ppl here who are already invited don't know my fiance very well (a couple of them haven't met him).  Is it weird that I invited them? 

I guess I can probably leave her off the invite list since it's I've only known her for 3 days haha. 

smartlypretty

You've only known her for 3 days, so I can't see where it would be anything but super awkward to invite her right now. I mean, you really did JUST meet her. I know it's normally bad etiquette to "B list" or invite someone to a wedding with very late notice, but I think if you guys end up hitting it off it would probably be okay to extend the invitation a little late.