Ugh, I'm so torn, upset, conflicted, sad right now.
We're right under a month out and our RSVP deadline is tomorrow so we've gotten most of our responses back at this point. And we've had like 50% declines! We originally STRUGGLED to get the list down to 209 (venue max is 180) and now it looks like we're only going to have around 100 guests.
I'm so sad because I cut so many people off the list, knowing that I couldn't even invite them as a B-list because they are in the same circle with more close friends that already got invites. We've been planning a big extravagent wedding and I now I feel like it's going to seem kinda sad that this big wedding isn't actually big.
I know everyone always says if you're below minimum you can try to do upgrades in bar, food, flowers, etc....but literally we can't because we already have everything exactly as we want it, upgraded as much as it really could be. Open bar, more stations of food than they've ever had before, etc.
I just can't believe so many people said no, and I feel like I SO regret the guest list choices/cuts I made in the beginning because there are so many people that I would've loved to give a chance to come, but really don't want to look rude to send invites out this late in the game. I'm not doing a b-list, so it's not like I'm asking advice on how to approach it. More just venting on here because when I vent to FI he mostly says just invite the people that I didn't invite. He doesn't quite get the etiquette of it all.
**And on top of it all, I apparently suck at posting things once!** stupid netbook, can't tell if it clicks the button or not.
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