Guest list troubles!

frenchiesgirl23

We are planning a small intimate backyard wedding with our closet family and friends. How do we let people know we are getting hitched but not invite them to the wedding without their feelings being hurt? Any thoughts?? Thanks!!

Loopyseven

Send out an announcement after the wedding (the day of or within a week of typically) announcing your marriage at a private ceremony.

ETA - and what Edie said too.

mollyehren

Send out an announcement card after the wedding.

kak2m4

What all PP said.  It's okay to let people know you got married, or are going to get married, in a small, private ceremony with closest family and friends. 

My opinion is, you can tell them this when they ask when you're getting married, or you can send an announcement out after the wedding.

LittleMissCutiePie

Ditto PP's. If people ask, just smile and nod, but don't get to specific about the actual wedding. If people I know I'm not inviting to the wedding ask, I just keep it vague.

Friend: When's the wedding?
Me: Next summer. Oh, I love your scarf!

Friend: Who are your BMs?
Me: Just a few gals from high school (true). Did you hear about that rescue dog who saved that baby from that fire?

Friend: How many people are you having?
Me: Not a whole lot. Family friends and relations. Where'd you get the recipe for these cookies?

Lather, rinse, repeat.

frenchiesgirl23

Thanks ladies!!

rebarobert2012

I think it would be fine to send out an announcement after the wedding.  Of course, if people ask if you are getting married, it's fine to tell them that you are.  If they ask if they are invited and they are not, just tell them you are keeping it small.