So my DF and I have been together a year and we were going to be getting married this August, but things fell through in the place where he was living so he is now staying with his uncle and my roomie got pregnant and needed the extra space so I moved back in with my parents after living with DF a short amount of time. (It's not that there was anything wrong with us, but he had to move in with his uncle and I wasn't staying there) We have decided to postpone until next year when we can at least find an apartment and be a little more financially prepared for a wedding.
My problem is my mom and step-dad keep dropping hints that we should just have a JP wedding. My mom's first wedding was very small in my grandmother's house because she was 19 and pregnant with me. When she married my stepdad, they had a bigger wedding at a lake pavillion. They hadn't lived together before the wedding.
They think if you have lived together that any large wedding is just an excuse to get gifts. While I think that's nice, it's not the reason I'm having a big wedding.
A) We both have a lot of family that we are close with and I can't imagine my day without them. 
I'm only getting married once and I want the white dress and all pictures of that day to last me a lifetime. It's my one excuse to look really pretty. And C) I want a large reception where my friends and family can dance and do things that we ordinarily wouldn't do together.
We're not asking them to pay for anything so I don't know what the big deal is. I've tried explaining to them that I just don't want to have regrets about my wedding. I want it to be special and memorable and not just a piece of paper we both signed.
Any advice would be appreciated.