Double checking

Ballet513

Hi, I am pretty sure I am doing the correct thing but need to double check bc my FI says I'm wrong. Yesterday we received regrets and a very nice card with a generous check from the VP at my FI's company. I told FI we need to cash the check this week and then I will send off a thank you note. He says NO we cash the check after the wedding and wait until we get our photo thank you cards and send one then. I'm right, right? Our wedding is still 5 weeks out I don't want to wait on a thank you note for these people for 2 months or more esp since he is essentially my FI's boss. Plus it was my understanding that its also rude to sit on a check bc the sender is waiting for the check to clear to settle their account. What does E think?

Mrs.B6302007

Cash it now and send the TY now as well.  No need to mess up the books by holding onto the check.

hoffse

Checks should be cashed ASAP, and a thank you note sent out ASAP.  PP is right: don't want to screw up somebody's account if they try to balance their checkbook.  I do like the rule of sending out a thank you before using/cashing gifts to make sure they get done, though.

Please don't wait to send out most of your thank yous until photos come back after the wedding.  Unless the bride and groom think to do the "thank you" photo during engagement pics, I always find it annoying that I had to wait 4 months to get a thank you because they had to wait 2 months on the photographer.  Thank you notes don't have to be fancy or cutesy - they just need to get done as soon as possible.

kmmssg

Another endorsement that it is proper to cash it now and send a TY immediately.  You are right on this one.  I think you should get a nice footrub or backrub out of this myself.

Knittibell

Yep, you're right, your FI is wrong- always cash checks right away, and send the TY note ASAP!

aragx6

I agree with you and everybody else!

lauraanne9

You cash the check and send the TY right away.  This also helps with the issue of the sender wondering if you did not receive the gift or if there was an issue with cashing it and no one told him/her.