Who to invite to a bridal shower?

[Deleted User]

I am not close to my fiance's best man's fiance. Do I need to invite her to my bridal shower?

Simply Fated

Is she in the bridal party?

[Deleted User]

she's not in the bridal party.

myother1

If you don't know the person at all, I'd say not to invite her. 

If you'd like to develop a friendship with her or have a lot of mutual friends who will be attending the shower, you may want to go ahead and include her.  If she's not comfortable coming, she can decline, and there's no obligation to send a gift.

I don't know if that's proper etiquette or not, but it seems sensible.

Knittibell

If she's not in the BP, then no, you don't. But it would be nice to, if she's your fi's best friend's fi, you may be closer/seeing each other a lot in the future.

[Deleted User]

She lives out of town and he's only dated her for 1 year. I don't really know her and we don't have any mutual friends....but she's very nice.

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5a459e93-442c-452d-9a46-e5f77642bfc2Post:060d13ef-74e4-4260-9749-74ca659dea9c">Re: Who to invite to a bridal shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]she's not in the bridal party.
Posted by Aries4[/QUOTE]
Then, no. In general, you don't have to invite anyone you aren't friends with and who isn't involved in the bridal party. No one gets invited to the bridal shower <em>just</em> for being a groomsmen date. :)

If you would like to invite her in hopes of getting to know her or to be nice, it would be a nice gesture, though. Especially if you'll be seeing a whole lot more of her once the wedding is over.

[Deleted User]

Thanks for your help! I will invite her because she's a nice girl and i think it would make my fiance happy. If she can't come or is uncomfortable coming since we don't have mutual friends i completely understand.

quotequeen

If I were her, I would think it was really weird that you invited me when we don't know each other (AND I live out of town), and would think you just wanted another gift.

emeraldeyez5191

I would def invite her, just as a sign of repsect! You may even turn out to really like her! Good Luck

vtbm

I agree with prior post. You should def. invite her.

chuygrl77

How far out of town is "OOT"?  If I lived two hours away and got invited to a bridal shower of someone I hardly know, I'd probably skip it.  You won't be able to talk to her much at your shower so maybe before hand, invite her somewhere else. Then if things go well, then i'd invite her.  I'd definitely try to get to know her first or it would seem like you're asking for gifts.  I dont know your time frame though, this may not be possible.

mica178

I probably wouldn't invite her.  I'd only send invitations to your bridal party and close family/friends who live within a reasonable distance of the bridal shower.  Many people would feel obligated to send a gift for an invitation received, and if she's from OOT, she's not likely to attend.

tenofcups4me

I wouldn't invite her. You don't really know her, she hasn't been with best man that long, and she lives out of town -- all good reasons to NOT invite her to the shower.