got 2 b-list invitations, in one week....from the same person

gnc0988

lol.
FSIL  sent us an invite to her baby shower and we got in last monday, the baby shower was sunday. I wasnt going to go anyway, and just found out that the baby shower was this past sunday. I paid so little to her invite that I didnt even notice I was B-listed until someone told me the shower was sunday. I wasnt going to go because 1.) no thank you.(see below), and 2.) even if FI and the family werent fueding, I think its pretty tacky to have another baby shower when you JUST had a baby shower less than a year ago. slow down.

Then today we got ANOTHER invite for her for her kids bday party for next weekend. Considring her kid is my FI's neice, and her husband is my FI's IDENTICAL TWIN....you would think they would make it a point to not send a last minute invite.

Knowing that they send invites more than two weeks in advance for any other party, I cant even say "maybe they just sent these out late"

Just to be clear, the family fued isnt my fault! they are crazy and FI has cut them all off, even though they still really want to be involved in his life. and are begging him constantly to be friends again. He is more than able to continue to deal with them if he wants to....I however backed away from them a long time ago (before they all fell out) because they have SO much drama, and personally, I dont enjoy sitting around in my MILs garage bad mouthing the other brothers wives, calling them whores and "ghetto trash" (yeah)  and then going inside the house and pretending like they are my best friends in the entire world. I also am not ok with sitting around listening to these woman bash my FI because they dont agree with the way he lives his life i.e.- not involving them in every single move he makes, or buying a house directly behind his mothers house like his brothers dud,

Obviously, if they do that to those girls...they would obviously do it to me, needless to say....they did, after they realized I didnt want to be part of their weekly bash sessions. Pretty sure the straw that broke the camels back for me was when my FMIL told me as im standing in my wedding dress and she was the first person I showed "im not coming to your wedding". Im so happy I can laugh about all of it now.,

TheBaysideBride

Is it possible she's just wildly disorganized???

gnc0988

Defintely not lol. At her first baby shower, almost exactly one year ago she sent the invites well in advance.

HSAmber

Eh. Sounds like she was running behind on everything. Showers, maybe, but I can't imagine needing a B-list for a child's birthday party. It seems like you're looking for things to complain about because of the other family drama.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]lol. FSIL  sent us an invite to her baby shower and we got in last monday, the baby shower was sunday. I wasnt going to go anyway, and just found out that the baby shower was this past sunday. I paid so little to her invite that I didnt even notice I was B-listed until someone told me the shower was sunday. I wasnt going to go because 1.) no thank you.(see below), and 2.) even if FI and the family werent fueding, I think its pretty tacky to have another baby shower when you JUST had a baby shower less than a year ago. slow down. Then today we got ANOTHER invite for her for her kids bday party for next weekend. Considring her kid is my FI's neice, and her husband is my FI's IDENTICAL TWIN....you would think they would make it a point to not send a last minute invite. Knowing that they send invites more than two weeks in advance for any other party, I cant even say "maybe they just sent these out late" Just to be clear, the family fued isnt my fault! they are crazy and FI has cut them all off, even though they still really want to be involved in his life. and are begging him constantly to be friends again. He is more than able to continue to deal with them if he wants to....I however backed away from them a long time ago (before they all fell out) because they have SO much drama, and personally, <strong>I dont enjoy sitting around in my MILs garage bad mouthing the other brothers wives</strong>, calling them whores and "ghetto trash" (yeah)  and then going inside the house and pretending like they are my best friends in the entire world. I also am not ok with sitting around listening to these woman bash my FI because they dont agree with the way he lives his life i.e.- not involving them in every single move he makes, or buying a house directly behind his mothers house like his brothers dud, Obviously, if they do that to those girls...they would obviously do it to me, needless to say....they did, after they realized I didnt want to be part of their weekly bash sessions. Pretty sure the straw that broke the camels back for me was when my FMIL told me as im standing in my wedding dress and she was the first person I showed "im not coming to your wedding". Im so happy I can laugh about all of it now.,
Posted by gnc0988[/QUOTE]

But you are badmouthing FSIL.

It doesn't matter if she had a baby shower last year. This is a new baby so she's allowed to have another shower.

If she has a little one at home and pregnant; I can understand how she's running a little behind and sent the invitations a little late.

To ME. B-Lists don't apply baby showers or birthday parties. Especially not a kid's birthday party.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: got 2 b-list invitations, in one week....from the same person : To the bolded. <strong>You get one baby shower, not one shower per baby.</strong> Sometimes people will have a second smaller shower if they are expecting a boy when they already have a girl or vice versa, but otherwise the stuff you got for the first kid can and should be reused for the second kid.  There are exceptions like if there was a huge gap in between babies or in the case of one of my friends when she had twins. Edit: And B-Lists are always rude.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

<div>Really? Clearly I'm clueless when it comes to baby shower etiquette.... but wouldn't similar logic state that you should only get one birthday party? Ever?</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: I've digressed from the OP. Well, on the bright side, at least you got invited? (Even though B-lists make me cringe a lot... and I hate them more than I hate spiders. Which is a lot.)</div>

TKzilla

I think you get one baby shower, then subsequent baby sprinkles (lol)

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[QUOTE]I think you get one baby shower, then subsequent baby sprinkles (lol)
Posted by CourtaniaLynn[/QUOTE]

I agree.

There is a girl I work who was PISSED we didn't throw her a baby shower.

For her FOURTH CHILD.

Yeah.

mcda04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: got 2 b-list invitations, in one week....from the same person : To the bolded. You get one baby shower, not one shower per baby. Sometimes people will have a second smaller shower if they are expecting a boy when they already have a girl or vice versa, but otherwise the stuff you got for the first kid can and should be reused for the second kid.  There are exceptions like if there was a huge gap in between babies or in the case of one of my friends when she had twins. Edit: And B-Lists are always rude.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

Hm. I'll ask my family about this one because I had a baby shower for each baby but I did have a boy and a girl. My MIL who had 6 (5 boys and 1 girl) had a shower for all of them. I mean of course they shouldn't be expected by the mom to be but they are nice.

They're often thrown by family too so I'd actually feel weird receiving multiple ones from co-workers.

I still don't think B-lists apply to baby showers a kids birthday party. At least not in my circle of friends / fam; maybe because we don't require RSVP's for these events. and I really don't think the OP FSIL was b-listing. She has a one year old; definitely busy with other things.

auroraborealisabc

Maybe I'm wrong here, but I thought it was considered sort of weird/sleazy to throw yourself a baby shower... I thought this was supposed to be thrown for you, similar to a bridal shower.  Otherwise you're just begging for gifts...

And yeah, B-list is rude, period.