bridal shower yesterday

alyssalowe

Okay knotties, I have a few questions.

How long after an event do you have to get thank you's out?

Do you send seperate thank you's for the wedding gifts (vs shower gifts) or wait till the wedding and then send everything from the person on the same card?

If you send seperate shower ones, do you address it to the person who came (the ladies) and not their husbands or s/o? Alot of the cards only had the lady's name on it.

Do you assume a gift left at the shower location (person couldnt attend) is a "shower gift" and word it as such?

Any other tips appreciated.

banana468

I'd say you have about 2 weeks to get shower TY notes out.

You send separate TY notes for separate gifts given at separate times.  If you recieved shower gifts yesterday, you should have all the TY notes mailed by the 20th.  Then if people send you wedding gifts, those are thanked in a separate note.

I'd address the note based on how the card was addressed.  If a couple signed both names, address the card to both names.  If just the wife wrote her name then address the TY note to just the wife.

I'd assume that any gift left at the shower is a shower gift.

Also, if you have a group of people that go in on one gift, you still need to send individual TY notes unless the group is an adult and her minor children.

KentuckyKate

I think Banana is spot on.  Send them immediately, for each gift you received.

alyssalowe

All finished with shower thank you's. Work was slow this morning. lol THANKS LADIES!

Beachy730

Alyssa, I don't know what the others think of this, but I might wait a few days to mail them still.  I also had all of my TY cards written the day after my shower because I wasn't working, and several of my friends told me I should wait a few days to send them.  They said if they got a shower TY 2 days after the shower they would think the cards were pre-written or something.  I ended up puting mine in the mail that Friday after my Sunday shower.

alyssalowe

I could understand that. I made sure to write about stuff that happened at the shower as well as the gift.

banana468

Dn, I heard that but I mailed my shower TY notes within a day or two of the shower and each was quite personalized.  I think as long as you make sure that it doesn't look generic, it won't read that way either.

Beachy730

I agree.  And that was my argument too.  I was told I shouldn't mail mine until a full week after at least, but I ended up deciding that was pointless and put them in the mail on the Friday.  OP yours sound like they are very personalized so you should be fine. 

And IMO, I would never judge a quick TY note that was personalized.  I think thats an older thought.

banana468

And FWIW, I received compliments on how prompt the TY notes were. 

PsyDet 2155

How long after an event do you have to get thank you's out? I would get them out ASAP.  Within two weeks after the event.

Do you send seperate thank you's for the wedding gifts (vs shower gifts) or wait till the wedding and then send everything from the person on the same card?  I would give out seperate thank-yous, one for the shower gifts and one for the wedding.

If you send seperate shower ones, do you address it to the person who came (the ladies) and not their husbands or s/o? Alot of the cards only had the lady's name on it. For the shower, I would address the woman who came and bought you the gift.  For the wedding thank-you's, I'd address it to the couple.

Do you assume a gift left at the shower location (person couldnt attend) is a "shower gift" and word it as such?  I wouldn't label the gift a shower gift, I would just say thank you for the gift and how you missed them at the shower.