DW Resorts that Charge Fees for Non-Guests

thurmanpowell

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[QUOTE]The AI I am getting married at charges a $100 day-pass fee for guests not staying at the resort.  There is also a cheaper ($25 or so) fee for the ceremony and reception only.  If I was having guests at my wedding, I would absolutely pick up the ceremony-reception fee.  If the guests wanted a entire day-pass, I would think the guests would be responsible for the fee (minus the $25 ceremony-reception fee I would pay.) But like a pp mentioned the day-pass is access to the all amenities/restaurant/bars the entire day.  Also, at my AI a wedding with guests IS NOT free.  It costs extra money to have a ceremony and reception.
Posted by LiLe422[/QUOTE]

Huh, I really would have thought the costs incurred by the guests would off set wedding costs a bit. These AI resorts must really be making a fourtune!

I've only known one person to get married at an AI resort and it would have 600 EACH for me and my FI to attend. On top of 400 per person in air fare, I figured if you're going to have your guest shell out 1k per person to be at your wedding then there must be some benefit!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Yea i dont think the bride and groom should pay for it at all. thats like having the bride and groom pay for your parking(i see the bride above did but ive never been to one where if i did have to pay they paid for it)  <strong>if you are wanting to go to their wedding you are either going to say in the resort or stay around it. and the only reason why someone would stay at a different resort is cuz its cheaper so if its still cheaper with the extra fee included thats on the guests its their choice.</strong> WELLL i just read a post and it made me think.. if the bride and groom arnt paying for the food  of the guests and its the hotel that charges it so they can eat at the reception and drink they BETTER cover that fee. i think it all depends on what the fee covers.
Posted by boomboom1243[/QUOTE]

No, the only reason I would stay at a different resort is NOT because it's cheaper. I would not stay at an all-inclusive. I don't want to. I don't want to be forced to eat the food. I don't do resort-y things.

Plus, how fuccking insulting for you to say that, after flying to Jamaica, taking vacation time, buying clothing, probably buying a gift, and paying for accomodations, I'm just being "cheap" by not wanting to pay an extra $200 for my husband and I to have the priviledge of going to a wedding. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

I also paid for valet parking at my venue. On top of the shuttle I rented for the OOT guests staying at the hotel, so they wouldn't have to rent cars or pay for cabs.

hoffse

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dw-resorts-that-charge-fees-for-non-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5acb0120-f772-47de-9f41-170b31236a68Post:cb0468ca-8c70-4cb7-b63a-50d1975bc326">Re: DW Resorts that Charge Fees for Non-Guests</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DW Resorts that Charge Fees for Non-Guests : Huh, I really would have thought the costs incurred by the guests would off set wedding costs a bit. These AI resorts must really be making a fourtune! I've only known one person to get married at an AI resort and it would have <strong>600 EACH for me and my FI to attend. On top of 400 per person in air fare,</strong> I figured if you're going to have your guest shell out 1k per person to be at your wedding then there must be some benefit!
Posted by thurmanpowell[/QUOTE]

<div>That is insane... I wonder if any guests showed up?</div><div>
</div><div>Also, I'm in the B&G should pay camp- I see it as part of the cost of having a destination wedding.</div>

MyNameIsNot

I agree that the B&G should pay.  I would think it's less like parking and more like any other facility that charges admission.  If you have your wedding at an amusement park, an aquarium, or whatever that charges admission, the B&G are responsible for picking up the tab.  A guest that happens to have a season pass may save the couple some money, but that doesn't mean that the rest of the guests should have to pay admission.  (I would say that the season pass is the same as the guest who chooses to stay there.)

A friend got married recently at a country club.  They normally charge non-members a fee to get in.  She was able to negotiate a reduced admission rate for her non-member wedding guests and considered it part of her rental fee.  We couldn't golf or go to the pool, but we were welcome to the ceremony, reception, and at the lounge for the "after".  Since a number of people in her family were members, she didn't have to include admission for them in the costs and got a little break.  I can't imagine how rude everyone would have thought it was if those of us that were not members were asked to pay a fee to attend.

When a couple chooses a venue that charges for guests, it's up to them to pay the costs, and try to negotiate it as best they can.