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Knottie Vibes please: Postponed wedding

I usually hate to post anything personal on here because it's impossible to explain relationships to strangers, but I'm keeping this quiet from friends here so there is no other place to vent.

Due to a huge blow out FI and I have decided to put off wedding planning for a few weeks/months while we go to counseling. With the initial date at 75 days from now, there was just too much pressure to work through all our stuff before then. I'm fine with this (even though it hurts), but there are just contant reminders of plans and dreams fallen through, and today every little set back feels like an impossible obstacle.

The relationship is already strained, work is always difficult, and now 1) I've spent a week returning emails from vendors saying I'll get back to them later, 2) found out there is a work trip that will cancel our Valentine's dinner plans (events are a huge deal to FI), and 3) my wedding dress is being delivered today.

It's just one of those days you wonder if life will ever stop throwing things at you, and how you'll make it until it does get better.

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Re: Knottie Vibes please: Postponed wedding

  • So sorry you are going through this! Sending lots of vibes!
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  • That's hard, and I'm really sorry to hear that. It sounds like you're going about this the right way though -- and getting counseling is a great idea that I recommend to damn near everyone. I'll be thinking of you!
    Lizzie
  • You are choosing the right priorities.  Best wishes to you.
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  • I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I will be thinking of you.
  • My late-husband and I postponed our wedding for similar issues.  I think it was about 6 weeks to go?  Invitations has already gone out.  It definitely sucked, but it was also the right decision.  We ended up getting married about a year later, and I think our marriage was much stronger since we got counseling.  

    I know it's tough right now, but it really sounds like you made the right decision.   Just hang in there:-)
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  • ::hugs::  If you both think you should wait, then it's the right decision.  Good luck with everything!
  • I'm so sorry! Kudos to you on making the difficult decision to put things off. I think it's great that you are smart/brave enough to do that so you can work through things.
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  • Vibes headed your way.
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  • So sorry for you, but I'm sure in the end it will be the best decision you could make.
  • ((hugs)) sorry to hear you are going through this but good job on realizing something needs to chage. I hope the therapy works.
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  • So sorry to hear you are going through that however like the PP's have stated if you both agree it is the right decision. Keep your head high
  • I'm sorry you are going through this.
  • So sorry to hear that.

    Strong vibes coming your way.  Even if it hurts now your relationship will be better off in the long-term.
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