I serioulsy need to vent, read on if you don't mind a long post...
So my fiance and I have decided that we want to have a very small, intimate wedding and 3-course dinner reception at our favorite restaurant. It will be 30 people altogether (immediate family, grandparents, aunts/uncles).
Today, at work, one of my co-workers innocently asked if we decided where we were planning on having the wedding, so I told him that my fiance and I decided to keep it very small and at a restaurant. Now I've worked this guy or over 2 years, so I didn't think twice about him asking and I figured my answer was sufficient especially since it's clear that an intimate wedding is what we really want.
But no, he then takes it upon himself to tell me that I should invite anyone whose wedding I've ever attended. And it's rude that I attended their wedding when I won't be inviting them to mine. I calmly explained to this poor naive man that that's not really how weddings work; attending a wedding doesn't mean you're obligated to invite the couple if and when you ever get married. Especially if we are very purposefully keeping it small and intimate with close family only.
He then said, I get that it's all about what you two want, and that's okay, as long as you don't mind people getting upset and talking about you.
(...ummmm, what kind of rude people would do this??)
I told him if people did this, then they would be acting very selfishly, and clearly they don't have the right motivations for attending the wedding anyway. And they probably aren't the people I'd want to share such an important day with to begin with.
He then went on to say that if I don't invite people then it's because I don't care enough about them...at this point I told him that I really didn't have anything else to say about it to him and left the room.
I honestly don't get how someone could be so out of line and offensive, I seriously lost so much respect for this guy who I was always quite fond of. He mentioned the conversation to one of my close work friends and acted like he was surprised that I was upset and reacted the way I did.
Seriously, who thinks this way??