Everybody needs a pre-wedding crisis right? (got long)

kkchisholm

Last week the shop we are renting tuxes called and said "Hey we're closing Friday". Our order is getting transfered to another shop and all that is good and fine .. but the only think I really said to the guy was "Um you have my dress..." (I dropped it off literally a week before). He assured me his taylor picked up all the gowns and gave me her cell number.

So of course- I call. No answer. I leave a message asking her to call me so we can make arrangments.  I call again Friday because seriously, it's my dress. I don't leave a message this time. Still no calll back! So I call today. Her voicemail says something like "If your calling about the store closing in Saco, well yes I have your items and yes am working on them and will be calling people soon". It sounded kind of rude. So I left a 2nd message, thanking her for that info in her voicemail, but asked her to call me back as soon as possible.

But inside I am being crazy and freaking out. The store owner gave me his cell number too if I needed anything...and I really want to to call him. My 2nd fitting is supposed to be next week... but I don't know if this will be happening. I know I should wait it out but I am very nervous, and I havn't even spoken to this woman to confirm my dress is actually in her possession.

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jasmineh7777

I would be freaking out as well. I would call him and let him know you haven't been able to get ahold of her, that he needs to contact her immediately, and you will be using another seamstress. I would get it back asap, if you can find someone else to do the alterations.

katiewhompus

Honestly I would call him and just explain that while they certainly have everything under control, you are a bit concerned about the lack of communication regarding your dress. This isn't a $20 shoe you can replace if you need to, you know? And while I'm sure the lady is absolutely swamped, it shouldn't take her this long to just call people and confirm she has their dress/garment.

ac_in_dc

I had a very similar thing happen to me. The bridal shop where I got my dress closed. The dress didn't even show up 'til less than 2 months before the wedding and I was at the mercy of the seamstress from the store, who was now a free agent.

It worked out OK, although I wasn't happy with the alterations she wound up doing...the dress was too tight when she took it in and it gapped in the back as a result. No huge crisis, but I left it with her several times to fix until finally, it was only a week before the wedding, and I just dealt with a dress that didn't fit perfectly.

I think in my case the problem was a language barrier. If I had been able to negotiate with the store owner, things may have been better.

So I guess it all depends on the seamstress, whether you feel like you can communicate with her, or if you want to find another shop and work through them.

You have some wriggle room (more than I did).

Definitely call the store owner and ask what's up. If you're not comfortable with the seamstress or can't meet with her in the next week or two, then by all means find another one.

Good luck. Sorry for the novel!

kkchisholm

Shes a great seamstress too and a really great pice! So I want to stick with her if I can. I I think I am going to call the owner tomorrow just to let him know whats up. Thanks all.

kkchisholm

Oh and I can't find the receipt that says I actually dropped off my dress, and I just cleaned my car so there's a good chance it's in the trash. I keep all that stuff. I suck. Hopefully it is just in a different bag.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]Shes a great seamstress too and a really great pice! So I want to stick with her if I can. I I think I am going to call the owner tomorrow just to let him know whats up. Thanks all.
Posted by kkchisholm[/QUOTE]

<div>Even still, I'd get another one.  She may be a miracle worker, but if she doesn't return your calls, it isn't worth it.  </div>

cqbride

I'm sure that you and 50 other people are calling her round the clock about their alterations. I'd imagine that she can't spend all day fielding phone calls and still get peoples atlerations to them by the time that the people need them done, so she's doing the responsible thing and making sure that she gets the urgent things to people on time, while waiting to contact the others until she gets an opportunity. Everyone else whose items she has is probably reacting exactly as you are (or much worse), so I can only imagine that she's getting hounded nonstop and is doing the best she can. Calm down, take a deep breath, and wait for her to contact you.

danieliza1127

I would just calm down and be patient.  The fact that she said that on her voice mail means that you and 50 other crazy brides are calling her and freaking out and she is probably overwhelmed by all the phone calls.  Give it until the end of the week.  It sounds like she has it under control.