My divorced parents and his widowed mom...

kmcmeekin

I read about sticky situations for the invites... but I have a combination of stickyness!

My parents are divorced.  My mom kept my dad's last name.  My FMIL is widowed.  They are jointly hosting the wedding (we're chipping in a little too.)  How do we phrase this?

Like this?

Ms. Laura Jo Miller,
Mr. David Gordon Miller, &
Ms. Eden Rose Johnson
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Heather Marie
to
Michael Francis
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand and eleven
at four in the afternoon

... three parents individually listed?  Does my mom go first or my dad?  Yikes... just wait until we get to ceremony seating!

jess9802

You might want to remove the names from your post - Internet safety and all that.

Ms. Bride Mom's Name
Mr. Bride Dad's Name
Ms. Groom Mom's Name
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Heather Marie
to
Michael Francis
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand eleven
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Name of Church
Address
City, State

Or, you could simply say

Together with their parents
Heather Marie Lastname
and
Michael Francis Lastname
blah blah blah

Snippylynn

Dude, I really hope those are not actual names.

That being said, this might be a situation where you go with the much simpler form of "Together with their parents"

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_divorced-parents-his-widowed-mom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5ba223af-ff8b-4fd0-875f-9ffedb41c4ecPost:249f908e-91e0-44d0-b2a4-a6803a5cbaaa">Re: My divorced parents and his widowed mom...</a>:
[QUOTE]I would definitely check with the ladies to see what form of address they would prefer.  Generally, a widow continues to use her husbands name as in "Mrs. John Smith".  There should be no "&" in the parents' names.  That indicates marriage.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree, ask FMIL.</div><div>
</div><div>Also this seems like a together with their parents, but that's up to you.</div>

hlq2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_divorced-parents-his-widowed-mom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5ba223af-ff8b-4fd0-875f-9ffedb41c4ecPost:841ac4d1-237f-40c9-be46-d655e0376e4c">Re: My divorced parents and his widowed mom...</a>:
[QUOTE]Dude, I really hope those are not actual names. That being said, this might be a situation where you go with the much simpler form of "Together with their parents"
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]


This.

Our wedding budget came from FI's parents, my stepmom after my dad died last year, and my remarried mom.  It was much easier on us just to go with "Together with their families"

Beazilla

If both sets of parents are hosting, you include your last name and your FI's last name.

Ms. Bride Mom's Name
Mr. Bride Dad's Name
Ms. (or Mrs.) Groom Mom's Name
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Bride First Middle Last
to
Groom First Middle Last
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand eleven
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Name of Church
Address
City, State

Check with FMIL on how she wants to be addressed. She may want Ms./Mrs. Herfirst Last or be Mrs. Hisfirst Last, so it's best to ask.

meganb1977

Agree with the way you have it or "together with their parents/families"

kmcmeekin

Thanks everybody!  I definitely made up fake names   I think we will go with "Together with their parents" to make it simplier.