I think I just need to hear yes.
My cousin's boyfriend is horrible. Everyone in the family vocally hates him, and tells her that he is awful. We don't knock his personality, but tell her specific things he has done like call my gay cousin a "f@g" to his face. He is emotionally abusive to my cousin, he is a drunk and drug abuser, makes fun of over-weight and challenged people on the street to their face. Pretty much satan.
My cousin is obviously no peach herself. Why would she stay with him? I love my cousin to death but she is an idiot for staying with him. I have no sympathy that she's upset in her relationship. She has been with him for years. He has always been like this, her supportive family has always given her opportunities to leave and come home and she just wants to vicitimize herself. Anyway, that's not the point.
Anyway, to my question. Obviously my cousin is invited to the wedding. My family is so tight, and I love all of my other cousin's partners. They are all great.
I can't include other partners and exclude this numb-nuts can I? My mom said I can based on how disrespectful he is to my family, my sister said I need to include him. My cousin's parents have expressed that it would not be a good idea to invite him. My fiance hates him too but is indifferent on the idea and is leaving the decision up to me and my family.
What do you think?? I don't want him there in fear that he will get drunk and insult one of my guests, but I don't want to be a bridezilla either. I don't want people to ask cousin on the wedding day where Mark is and cousin to respond, "Oh, bridezilla wouldn't let me bring him."
I think at the end of the day I will have to suck it up, invite him and just let the staff at the reception know that there is a loose canon in the crowd and to not hesitate to remove him if/when he becomes a disturbance.
What would you do??