nod to family memebers that have passed

hkay22

I want to say something at the bottom of the program about my grandmother.  She was very special to me and passed away when I was in high school.  What should I say?  I don't want it to be too sad.  Just want her with me in spirt.

akhensley81

We put a note on the back page of the program that said "In Loving Memory" at the top, then, "On this joyous day, we wish to remember those who have gone before us. We carry you in our hearts, today and always." And we listed the names of 5 family members who were special to us who passed (we've both lost both of our grandfathers, and H lost a brother).

There was also a prayer said for them during the ceremony.

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We had a special section in our program as well and then listed the names. I think I said something like this: On this very special day in our lives, we wish to remember our loved ones who have gone before us. We know they are here with us in spirit. The special ways in which they touched our lives will remain in our hearts forever.

baystateapple

We're putting a note in the program that says "In Loving Memory" and listing my grandmother and FI's grandfather.  I'm also carrying a locket attached to my bouquet that has a picture of my grandma on her wedding day in it.

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Oh yeah, I carried my Grandma's rosary and it was also my something old.

ehathewa

We will have a note in the program (FI lost his father, and it is the anniversary of my Grandpa's passing).  And we will have a silent moment/prayer. 

Pirata13

I opted not to do this. I have no grandparents left, and I was especially close to my dad's parents.  (My e-ring belonged to my grandmother. I am one of 5 granddaughters and my grandfather specifically wanted me to have it.)  They've all been gone a long time now, but it was still very difficult for me to not have them there. I felt it was kind of a downer to have it in print (for me). I wanted to keep it light for me and my family.  I wish I would have remembered to put the rosary my grandfather gave me in my purse--he bought it for my grandmother at the World's Fair in the 1930s.


Keep it simple as PPs suggested, or if you're superemotional like me, carry a keepsake with you or in your purse etc.

karbar42

I found this and thought it was very pretty:

Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.

You could In Loving Memory of XX at the end of it.

jerseydevil

I think this is one of the most personal choices to make about your ceremony.

For me personally, it would be a little bit of a downer to list their names in the program. I'm planning to light a memorial candle and have our officiant say something about it being for those who will be celebrating with us in spirit or something like that and that will be it.

jennifer0124

We had a memorial candle and a vase of flowers on the escort card table for  my grandparents that had passed.  To me it was really hard to not have them there so I didn't want to bring it to the forefront since I would be super emotional.

aprovencher21

I've really been missing my grandfather and still cannot believe he won't be present for my wedding.  We're going to have a moment of silence and a lighting of memorial candle for him.  I'll also have a charm attached to my bouquet with his picture (pictures in bio below) and we're going to reserve the seat next to my grandmother with a red rose (his favorite flower).

I don't think we'll mention anything in the program.  It would feel awful for me not to include my grandfather on this special day and actually doing these things has made it easier for me.

moosebaby2011

We dedicated the altar flowers in memory of our grandparents and put a little note about it in the program.  It's something that is done pretty frequently at our church.

marissa_claire

Yeah we will probably put a small note in our program, but I will also throw a few photos in the slideshow during the cocktail hour.  

When my cousin got married, they had a slideshow and there were sooo many hysterical photos of my uncle (deceased) from the early 80s when he had an afro and mustache.  Everyone loved it and the family particularly thought it was really thoughtful.