Most Recent KPS (Discussion Post)

arbolita

The sender included the following as a comment with the secret:

This is not a joke or a hoax, I'm begging you to please print it and allow comments. I am barely hanging onto an unraveling thread.

Secret Clicky

OP, I hope that you are able to find the help/support you need.  There is no harm in talking to a counselor.  What you have to look out for is not putting on an act while you are there - making things seem not as bad as they really are.  I know that I really struggled in counseling sessions when I would go because for so long I had pretended to be fine, that even in a confidential place, I still didn't want to let the walls down completely, and I would usually just tell them what I thought they wanted to hear.  

baystateapple

Ditto Arbs.

I hope you find some help and are at peace soon.

AmoroAgain

I don't know what ASPD is.

laurenclaire1386

There's no shame in asking for help. Please do it. It might be a long, hard road to walk, but getting the help you need to cope with this will be worth it. Best of luck to you.

arbolita

Google tells me it's Antisocial Personality Disorder

laurenclaire1386

Amoro, I had to look it up too. It's antisocial personality disorder.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Anti-social personality disorder?  That's really sad... poor thing!

georgia_bride09

Psychiatrists aren't in business to be out for blood; they truly want to help their patients lead "normal" lives. I think you should make an appointment with a mental health professional TODAY. When you go, be completely honest with them. You have nothing to lose by getting help. They will probably prescribe some meds and put you on a therapy schedule.

You can't be afraid of how you'll turn out. I think once you're honest with yourself, then your life will improve for the better. Medication is not always the answer, of course, but I think in this case, it would be a good starting point.

You will not be locked in an asylum.

shellydiane820

These make me sad.  There's help, you can find it.  I can't imagine someone thinking less of you because of this. Just get the help you need.

mica178

Personality disorders require a lot of therapy, but that's not a bad thing.  I know a lot of psychiatrist and psychologists who say that the world would be a better place if more people were talking about their issues and fears rather than bottling them up.

Please get help. 

Brie2010

Where are Beatles and Poli when we need them? 

OP, I have no advice, but I hope you seek help and will be thinking of you.

KatyRoseM

I understand that the fear of being locked up is huge, but its very unlikely.  It is also more unlikely if you get help sooner rather than later, they only do that if your a danger to yourself or others, getting help stops you from reaching that point. 

I know its hard to ask for help, but it really is the strongest thing you can do. 

wadingmoose

I just want to give them a big hug.  I hope whoever it is finds the help they need.

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]I just want to give them a big hug.  I hope whoever it is finds the help they need.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Yes, this. So sad.

georgia_bride09

Also, to the secret poster, the fact that you've acknowledged that you have a problem and need help is a HUGE step in the right direction. Even though you're scared, you've already been honest with yourself. Some people never acknowledge to themselves that anything's wrong. So, props that you've even gotten this far.

Calumet

To the secret poster- Acknowledging it and seeking help is huge.

DH and I used to have a friend, that we now suspect is a victim of this disorder. We unfortunately experience the Hyde side. We told him how his behavior had hurt us immensely, and we were aware that this was probably a problem out of his control. We begged him to allow us to help him. He was completely unable to acknowledge the problem existed, that he was hurting those around him. It sounds like you are already doing better than he is. I tell this story, because the problem is more common than you might think.

Please get help, I can tell you even if you have hurt people in the past, or if you are successfully fighting your urges currently, but are afraid of the fallout if people find out your "true" colors: Do not worry, those who love you, will stand behind you in this fight. Acknowledging it is step one, getting help is the next one. There IS help, support, and love to be found.