Invite Boss to Wedding?

michb58

Hi all - I have a dillema that I could use some advice on... there have been several women in my department who have recently gotten married, or will be getting married in the near future. They have all invited, or will be inviting my boss. I am not that close to my boss, but she is the type who may get offended/probably will get offended if she is not invited. We have some room on our guest list, but I am not sure if I really want to invite her or not but I don't want to cause any issues or future issues at work. So, to invite or not to invite?

mollyehren

If you think they might be offended and you want to continue working for the lady I would bite the bullet and invite her and her spouse, but not the entire family if she has one.

staceycaine

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-boss-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5caf24ec-83d7-4fdd-83dd-cd7f3a53c74aPost:ee8e7c87-9e37-446b-8952-e3d87475edab">Re: Invite Boss to Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you think they might be offended and you want to continue working for the lady I would bite the bullet and invite her and her spouse,<strong> but not the entire family if she has one.</strong>
Posted by mollyehren[/QUOTE]

<div>Wait. What? You have to invite her husband/significant other if she has one. HAVE to. And if you are inviting kids of everyone ELSE, you can't just not invite her kids. </div>

tenofcups4me

Since the standard of inviting her has already been established by several other people, I would absolutely invite her, especially since you think she might be offended if not invited and you have no space/budget issues that would preclude it.

staceycaine

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-boss-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5caf24ec-83d7-4fdd-83dd-cd7f3a53c74aPost:44930554-e7fc-4671-8d2d-0483a6b90a2d">Re: Invite Boss to Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invite Boss to Wedding? : She said invite her spouse/SO, and no, you don't have to invite a kid just because someone has one and others will be in attendance. Is it best to make a clear cutoff with the kids?  Probably.  Does anyone have to?  Nope.  Kids are not an all or nothing group, just like adults are not one.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I just meant if everyone else invited gets to bring their kids, and she does not let her boss, it would be better to just not invite the boss, in my opinion. Clear cut-offs are one thing (family, etc.), but if everyone else is bringing their kids, you can't just tell ONE SINGLE FAMILY to leave the kids at home. Well, I mean you can. But you'll be hated for it.

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notyetavet

I agree that the boss and her SO should be invited. If you have the space to do it, I think it's better to avoid potential drama. 

I also agree that inviting her entire family is not necessary.  It's not like every couple in attendance is going to show up with a kid and the boss and her SO will be left out if they don't have a youngster to corral for the evening.  Plus, it's a business relationship, not family (I also like how we are all arguing over kids that may or may not exist in this situation).

whitsy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-boss-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5caf24ec-83d7-4fdd-83dd-cd7f3a53c74aPost:6b484c22-d9c3-4959-9c43-c00cac7acae5">Re: Invite Boss to Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Since the standard of inviting her has already been established by several other people, I would absolutely invite her, especially since you think she might be offended if not invited and you have no space/budget issues that would preclude it.
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

This is my answer.

doeie04

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-boss-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:5caf24ec-83d7-4fdd-83dd-cd7f3a53c74aPost:efd374b7-4f6d-416f-81bb-3a4f83a07f13">Re: Invite Boss to Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree that the boss and her SO should be invited. If you have the space to do it, I think it's better to avoid potential drama.  I also agree that inviting her entire family is not necessary.  It's not like every couple in attendance is going to show up with a kid and the boss and her SO will be left out if they don't have a youngster to corral for the evening.  Plus, <strong>it's a business relationship, not family (I also like how we are all arguing over kids that may or may not exist in this situation).
</strong>Posted by notyetavet[/QUOTE]

This. The potential kids don't need to be invited, in my opinion.

[Deleted User]

If it has the potential to cause you problems and drama at work, it's best to invite.  (And I'm not usually on this band wagon.)