Excuse me? What?

caseylynne21

so two of the girls who were at my wedding decided for my wedding gift they would make a scrapbook for me. Cool, only because they grabbed everything before the MOH could, cause she was going to make me one. well today one of the girls comes up to me and asks about what pictures i would like to have in the scrapbook. I replied that it didn't matter, none of the pictures from the photographer are back yet, but there are plently running around on facebook that are nice (she is able to view all of these btw).  so this is where it took a weird turn. she says that i should go to costco and have them printed out, or do a snapfish account, because she doesn't want to pay for them because it is expensive. i politely tell her that it might take me a while with school wrapping up fo the semester. well apparently she and the other girl and going to michael's this weekend and are picking stuff out, but no stickers or decorations. if i want them i should contribute. so i am curious...am i being  roped into paying for my own wedding gift...?

kimheartsscott

Yes.

caseylynne21

that's what i thought...how do i handle this nicely? I would rather do it my way if i am footing the pill

kimheartsscott

I don't know, it is definitely weird.  I would just let them know you understand that it is expensive, and they are not obligated to do it but thank them for the offer.  If they back out, then you can do it your own way for only a little bit more than it would cost you to have it as a "gift."

caseylynne21

sounds like a plan...i was totally thrown by this

Kfmarried

Haha.  Wow... I don't even know what to say to this.  Are these girls your friends?  They are DEFINITELY trying to get you to pay for your gift.  How rude.  I think that too often we, as women, want to accomodate everyone but don't fall for it here.  A gift shouldn't require that much work or money on your part.  Scrapbooking can get pricey and these girls should have thought about that before offering to make one as a gift for you. 


Pretty class = less in my opinon. 

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]so two of the girls who were at my wedding decided for my wedding gift they would make a scrapbook for me. Cool, only because they grabbed everything before the MOH could, cause she was going to make me one. well today one of the girls comes up to me and asks about what pictures i would like to have in the scrapbook. I replied that it didn't matter, none of the pictures from the photographer are back yet, but there are plently running around on facebook that are nice (she is able to view all of these btw).  so this is where it took a weird turn. she says that i should go to costco and have them printed out, or do a snapfish account, because she doesn't want to pay for them because it is expensive. i politely tell her that it might take me a while with school wrapping up fo the semester. well apparently she and the other girl and going to michael's this weekend and are picking stuff out, but no stickers or decorations. if i want them i should contribute. so i am curious...am i being  roped into paying for my own wedding gift...?
<p>Posted by caseylynne21[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>Wow, highly bizarre. Personally, I'd just let them know that you really appreciate the thought, but if they don't have the funds they shouldn't worry about it.</p>

caseylynne21

yeah....i know they dont think that i am idiot...but yeah we really aren't that close

danieliza1127

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Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Yeah that.  I would just say something like "look, it's really sweet that you guys offered to do the scrapbook, but I really can't afford to help pay for it and I don't have the time to mess with it, so it's okay if it doesn't work out" or something to that effect.  I certainly wouldn't pay for ANYTHING related to this scrapbook. 

angie74

yea, that's weird. and pretty tacky. I don't get how they think that's ok.

tell them thanks for the offer, you understand that scrapbooks are pricey, and if they think they can't really afford it, that it's ok.

BecW2be

WTH?! That is so weird.

I'd tell them that you used your photography budget paying for the professional photographer, and you won't be able to contribute. Maybe they can do page layouts that you can insert photos in later when yours come back from the photographer?

Either way, that is so odd and rude. It's like giving a toaster without the power cord!

skippylouwho

I would also ask that they give you everything they've collected that was to go in to the scrapbook. I'd tell them that you'd like the items because evenutally you will find time to complete it yourself.

That way you will have all of the items and be able to make it how you want it - especially if you're buying the materials.

eav2c

Quite strange and what a awkward situation.

How old are you? I ask because I know college kids like to get around paying for anything... Or at least most of them.

My best friend got married last summer and one of our sorority sisters gave her a gift that she had gotten from her wedding... but the kicker was that it was the actual gift that she got. We found this out because when my best friend opened the box, a card was inside the box made out to the other girl for her wedding. Not to mention, the box had already been opened and seemed used. Talk about awkward!

I would just kindly say that you really appreciate their thought, but in the time being you really can't afford to pay to print out the pictures as you are paying for your wedding. But thank them for their thoughtfulness (even if it really isnt that thoughtful!).

leayn

tell them the MOH has already picked out and paid for alot of stuff to do the exact same thing, and it sounds like it would be easier for her to just take over (and give me back all the crap you snatched!!).  if they can't do it on their own, they shouldn't be doing it at all.