My future husband and I are having a destination wedding and have chosen a ceremony site that accomidates an ABSOLUTE maximum of 30 people. This number includes photographer, officiant, us... everyone.
He has a large family (more than 50 people if you include siblings, nieces and nephews, aunts and uncles). We are planning on having a larger reception a couple months afterwards in his home state where we will invite a larger number of people and use separate invitations. My family is small and from all over the country - and will also be invited to the later reception.
However, we would like to use our ceremony site to it's maximum capacity to allow close family and friends to attend. We are planning to send out a Save-the-Date card at least 10 months prior to the ceremony, with invitations to follow about 2 months prior.
Is it okay (even if not absolutly proper) to give an explaination of our ceremony site restrictions on the Save-the-Date and request RSVPs ahead of sending invites?
Any suggestions on how to handle this conundrum with grace and class?