One Niece/Nephew in the Bridal Party but not the others?

Alista0054

I have one flower girl, (brides/my  baby sister) and my Fiance has 9 neices/ nephews! Our 3 year old son is going to be the ring bearer. Is it wrong to have just one of his nieces as another flower girl, and not the rest of the clan? I dont want the in-laws to think that Im favoring any of the kids over the others.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I have one flower girl, (brides/my  baby sister) and my Fiance has 9 neices/ nephews! Our 3 year old son is going to be the ring bearer. Is it wrong to have just one of his nieces as another flower girl, and not the rest of the clan? I dont want the in-laws to think that Im favoring any of the kids over the others.
Posted by Alista0054[/QUOTE]
Are you especially close to that 1 niece more than the other 8?

Alista0054

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[QUOTE]In Response to One Niece/Nephew in the Bridal Party but not the others? : Are you especially close to that 1 niece more than the other 8?
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

Im close to all of them. I dont have favorites, but i just dont want 11 kids walking down the isle.

girl4182

Maybe just stick with one flowerf girl and if asked explain that you didn't want to choose between so many amazing kids 

misshart00

In Response to Re:One Niece/Nephew in the Bridal Party but not the others?:[QUOTE]Maybe just stick with one flowerf girl and if asked explain that you didn't want to choose between so many amazing kidsnbsp; Posted by girl4182[/QUOTE]

This. I wouldn't single any out unless you're particularly close with one.

CallaLily25

If you're not particularly close to one niece, I think it may be best to have only one flower girl so that you don't risk hurt feelings. I don't know the dynamics among your FI's family or the ages of his nieces, but only choosing one leaves the potential open for someone to get insulted.

AddieCake

I agree to just have one and then you don't step on any toes on his side of the family.

Alista0054

Thank you for all of your responses! Helped me in deciding just to have my one flower girl.. Thank you!

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]I'd keep it to your sister and son and leave out the neices and nephews. It is a clear cutoff, if anyone is offended they are too easily offended.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

This.  Having only one of FI's nieces/nephews in the WP would probably create even more problems than none of them. 

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: One Niece/Nephew in the Bridal Party but not the others? : Im close to all of them. I dont have favorites, but i just dont want 11 kids walking down the isle.
Posted by Alista0054[/QUOTE]
If you were especially close to one... like you lived nearby and just happened to spend a lot of time with her. Or if he was her godfather or what ever.... then it would make sense to choose her over the others and the in-laws would understand that. They still might not like it, but it would make sense to rational people.

However, you aren't close to <em>any</em> of them. So, what would be the reason if you two chose one over the others?

Your safest bet is to not have any of them and just invite them as guests. This way you won't have a random second flower girl you aren't even close with.

GoodLuckBear14

It sounds like you just want two flower girls.  Even though they aren't adults, you still only put FGs and RBs in your WP is you are close to them.  To add one just because you like the idea or the way it looks is just wrong.

s-aries8990

Take a special picture and they're all involved

bburkel

I have 12 nieces and nephews, but they are mostly older.  I picked one from each family to do something in the wedding (bridesmaids, ushers, jr bridesmaid, etc).