NWR Going to a Casual Memorial Service

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Hey  this is not wedding related but I thought I could get some quick advice about this. 

We are going to a memorial service. It is more a celebration of our friends life. The family has made it a point to continuously say that it is a "VERY casual service" (there words). And mention that the guy was more of a "jeans and t-shirt kind of guy". I need some suggestions, what would you wear. I don't want to be to dressed up but I don't want to look to casual... 

Advice please. TIA

nextrightthing

Where is it?  The venue will tell you a lot.  Personally, I would probably wear black pants and a dark-colored top, just to be on the safe side. I would rather be over-dressed than disrespectfully under-dressed.  But it does kind of sound like they are saying "wear jeans" so that's tough.

crash2729

Maybe some dark jeans and a cute top?

[Deleted User]

It is at a community church. The reason they picked it is because they will allow them to be there as long as they like with no fee. There are no connections. He passed over two weeks ago so this is just a memorial service. They said people will have the chance to share memories. 

J&K10910

I think in this case, I'd wear a darker, more casual dress if you have one.  A lot of people wear dresses every day so it's not like it would be really dressing up.  Otherwise, since it sounds like they're really emphasizing the casualness, I guess maybe a pair of nice, dark jeans, heels, and a nice top.  I'd feel super uncomfortable wearing that though, personally.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]It is at a community church. The reason they picked it is because they will allow them to be there as long as they like with no fee. There are no connections. He passed over two weeks ago so this is just a memorial service. They said people will have the chance to share memories. 
Posted by halie520[/QUOTE]

Wait, so is it the funeral?  If the funeral has already been had, and this is really just a gathering of loved ones, I'd feel better about the dark jeans and nice top.

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No they are not having a funeral. He was cremated. They are calling this a memorial. Idk. This is why I am confused.

banana468

I'd go with either a sundress and cardigan with a sweater or black slacks and a blouse / cardigan combo.

I probably wouldn't go with fancy heels or blazer but I also wouldn't wear denim either.

Lisa50

I am sorry for you loss. 

I would wear a dress or a nice skirt and sweater set.  You might want to consider wearing what you'd choose to wear to Sunday brunch at a nice restaurant.  It is not disrespectful to wear a nice outfit to a memorial service.