Sr. Flower girl, is there such a thing?

jrkjpf

Mom and I were having a conversation about a "duty" for my 10 year old, will be 11 during the wedding, niece. Mom came up with maybe making her a Senior Flower Girl, I have heard of Junior Bridesmaids, but not this. Is there such a thing? And also, I feel she might be a little old as well, thoughts? I do want to include her in somehow.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Mom and I were having a conversation about a "duty" for my 10 year old, will be 11 during the wedding, niece. Mom came up with maybe making her a Senior Flower Girl, I have heard of Junior Bridesmaids, but not this. Is there such a thing? And also, I feel she might be a little old as well, thoughts? I do want to include her in somehow.
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

<div>She is old enough to know that it's a BS role, and too old to be any type of flower girl.  Let her be a BM, or just let her be a guest.</div>

Rosie109

No that is crazy.

tayylor65

I kinda feel like you can do anything you want in this situation.  I know I wouldn't think anything of it if an 11 yo was walking down with the young flower girl.  I'd just have them wear the same style dress so ppl realize "who" she is.

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]No that is crazy.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

Kind of figured, sounded a little out there to me.

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]I kinda feel like you can do anything you want in this situation.  I know I wouldn't think anything of it if an 11 yo was walking down with the young flower girl.  I'd just have them wear the same style dress so ppl realize "who" she is.
Posted by tayylor65[/QUOTE]

FI's daughter would be the "young" flower girl, she will be 5 then. Mom's "idea" was to have the little one throw the flowers, and my niece just follow. Again, i feel she is too old.

Rosie109

Also total sidenote. but my work blocks photobucket.. and for some reason your large blinking signature  drives me nuts.

tayylor65

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sr. Flower girl, is there such a thing? : FI's daughter would be the "young" flower girl, she will be 5 then. Mom's "idea" was to have the little one throw the flowers, and my niece just follow. Again, i feel she is too old.
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

<div>I feel like having your niece just follow your FI's daughter would be awkward.  I do agree here that she's old enough where she'll just kinda..be there?  Maybe rather than have her as another flower girl of sorts, let her be a junior bridesmaid.  She'd get to wear a special dress/stand up with you all that way which she'd probably really like.</div>

cbratthauer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sr. Flower girl, is there such a thing? : I feel like having your niece just follow your FI's daughter would be awkward.  I do agree here that she's old enough where she'll just kinda..be there?  Maybe rather than have her as another flower girl of sorts, let her be a junior bridesmaid.  She'd get to wear a special dress/stand up with you all that way which she'd probably really like.
Posted by tayylor65[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. My 9 year old Goddaughter is going to be my Jr. Bridesmaid and she's way excited

jrkjpf

I think i may make her a program attendant, lets her at least be apart of things. Our wedding party numbers are starting to get a little insane as is.

Thanks!

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I think i may make her a program attendant, lets her at least be apart of things. Our wedding party numbers are starting to get a little insane as is. Thanks!
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

<div>Asking her to hand out programs is fine, and something she would probably like.  My 11 y/o twin cousins handed out our programs, and we got them little corsages to wear.  But please don't call her "program attendant."  That sounds as condescending as "guestbook attendant." </div>

lyndausvi

I had 3 ten-year olds in my wedding.  They were just BM.  Not even Jr, just plain BM.

jrkjpf

I have 2 nieces, 1 nephew (plus "step" niece and nephew, they are close to my age, and am not close with), all in which I have been asked to include them somehow. Plan was to have the oldest niece as a BM, she will be 14 during the wedding, and have the youngest niece and my nephew, man the guest book and programs. I see this working better than dear mom's plan, and makes everyone happy.

SarahPLiz

My friend's 10 year old walked her down the aisle, with my friend's dad as well. They both gave her away. She had a different flower girl. I thought that was sweet. 

KindersGirl1216

My MOH has an 11yr old daughter who I love like she is my own. I have also been trying to come up with something for her to do. I have thought about her helping out with my train, or a Jr BM but I can't find a dress in her size that is the same color as BM dresses. I need to figure out something. She also informed me that this is the only time she is wearing a dress. Lol She is a Tom Boy.

SparrowSong

I think a 10 or 11 yr old would be fine as a flower girl. I prefer them old enough that they know what to do, don't freak out and cry or dump all the flower petals in one big pile somewhere.  I hate, hate, HATE toddler, and worse, infant, flower girls. Wish everyone would use kids in the 5-10 range instead.  I think an older girl walking down the aisle with the younger girl and just kind of being in charge of stuff would be cute. 11 yrs old is still a kid. Like the rest of life, I see no reason to rush them into an "adult role" like bridesmaid when they are, definitely, still a child.

Didn't Prince William and Kate have some older children in their wedding party?

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]I have 2 nieces, 1 nephew (plus "step" niece and nephew, they are close to my age, and am not close with),<strong> all in which I have been asked to include them somehow</strong>. Plan was to have the oldest niece as a BM, she will be 14 during the wedding, and have the youngest niece and my nephew, man the guest book and programs. I see this working better than dear mom's plan, and makes everyone happy.
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

???

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]I think a 10 or 11 yr old would be fine as a flower girl. I prefer them old enough that they know what to do, don't freak out and cry or dump all the flower petals in one big pile somewhere.  <strong>I hate, hate, HATE toddler, and worse, infant, flower girls</strong>. Wish everyone would use kids in the 5-10 range instead.  I think an older girl walking down the aisle with the younger girl and just kind of being in charge of stuff would be cute. 11 yrs old is still a kid. Like the rest of life, I see no reason to rush them into an "adult role" like bridesmaid when they are, definitely, still a child. Didn't Prince William and Kate have some older children in their wedding party?
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]

I'm glad you're not going to be at my wedding then.

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]I think a 10 or 11 yr old would be fine as a flower girl. I prefer them old enough that they know what to do, don't freak out and cry or dump all the flower petals in one big pile somewhere.  I hate, hate, HATE toddler, and worse, infant, flower girls. Wish everyone would use kids in the 5-10 range instead.  I think an older girl walking down the aisle with the younger girl and just kind of being in charge of stuff would be cute. 11 yrs old is still a kid. Like the rest of life, I see no reason to rush them into an "adult role" like bridesmaid when they are, definitely, still a child. Didn't Prince William and Kate have some older children in their wedding party?
Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]
 
Are you being serious? NOT every child is going to stop mid-isle, scream yell and throw flowers all around. And to be honest with you, i would probably pee my pants laughing if they did. If anything, the 5 year old will be pretty excited. I'm pretty sure my niece will not need to be there to "keep an eye on her", she will be fine for the 5 minutes of standing.

And William and Kate used a wide range of children in their wedding party, I believe the youngest was 2, 3ish? But this isn't William and Kate's wedding.

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]I have 2 sons, 11 and 7, and they will be the Jr. GM and the RB.  FH's cousin has two daughters the same age - they will be the Jr. BM and the FG.  While I prefer older kids in those particular roles, I need no reason to blast someone because they want a 2 or 3 yr. old as a FG/RB - it is their wedding, and they have the right to choose who they want as attendants.  I think if they practice with them during the rehearsal they should do just fine. <strong>My MOH came up with a good idea to keep her FGs and RB standing up for the wedding - they put a $5 bill on their spots, and told them if they stand on them the entire time, they can keep them.  She has a pic of them holding up their money - was too cute. 
</strong>Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

That's great, I will have to keep that in mind!

AbbeyS2011

I have 2 sons, 11 and 7, and they will be the Jr. GM and the RB.  FH's cousin has two daughters the same age - they will be the Jr. BM and the FG.

 While I prefer older kids in those particular roles, I need no reason to blast someone because they want a 2 or 3 yr. old as a FG/RB - it is their wedding, and they have the right to choose who they want as attendants.  I think if they practice with them during the rehearsal they should do just fine.

My MOH came up with a good idea to keep her FGs and RB standing up for the wedding - they put a $5 bill on their spots, and told them if they stand on them the entire time, they can keep them.  She has a pic of them holding up their money - was too cute. 

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]I have 2 nieces, 1 nephew (plus "step" niece and nephew, they are close to my age, and am not close with), <strong>all in which I have been asked to include them somehow.</strong> Plan was to have the oldest niece as a BM, she will be 14 during the wedding, and have the youngest niece and my nephew, man the guest book and programs. I see this working better than dear mom's plan, and makes everyone happy.
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]

Just because you've been asked to include them doesn't mean you have to. Not every person in your family needs to be involved somehow. I think it's ridiculous when people think just because there's kids in the family that they must somehow be involved in a wedding.

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sr. Flower girl, is there such a thing? : Just because you've been asked to include them doesn't mean you have to. Not every person in your family needs to be involved somehow<strong>. I think it's ridiculous when people think just because there's kids in the family that they must somehow be involved in a wedding.</strong>
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

I could not agree more.  FH's nephew, who is 13, is mad at me because I did not ask him to be in the WP.  If I had asked everyone in his immediate family to be in the WP, we would not have any guests!

jrkjpf

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sr. Flower girl, is there such a thing? : Just because you've been asked to include them doesn't mean you have to. Not every person in your family needs to be involved somehow. I think it's ridiculous when people think just because there's kids in the family that they must somehow be involved in a wedding.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

I have no problem including my nieces and nephews, no complaints by me. It's just a matter of who is what and where. Now if someone was to say i need to include aunts, uncles and cousins, then I would have a problem. But this is fine with me.

Patineuse1124

We have 5 nieces and nephews and the youngest two (3 & 4 yrs old) were the RB and FG.  The two oldest girls (9 & 10) each read a poem during the ceremony.  I got them nice dresses to wear as well (just less fancy than the FG dress). Our other nephew (7) was the "photographer's assistant" because that was what he wanted to do.  Moral of the story:  If you want her involved find a role for her, though IMO she is too old to be a FG, and a bit young for jr BM.