I was invited to a wedding that's at least 2 hours away and not very close family. It wouldn't be worth it for me to go, by the time I add up babysitting, travel time and distance, etc. I would love to go if it's closer. Am I required by etiquette rules to send a gift or money anyway? I'm guessing no but I wanted feedback anyway. Background: distant relatives, see some in this group maybe once a year at the most, the groom is a first cousin 3x removed. I had a baby last year and he didn't send me anything. TIA