My grandmother and aunt informed us today, 9 months before the wedding (before we even sent out invites), of the following:
Hi,
We are informing you that we will not be attending the wedding. My son might have a test on that date [wedding in on a Saturday, my cousin is in gr 8], and we can't risk him not getting a good mark. We will do the obligatory thing and send a cash gift, as is our duty. But that is all.
-Aunt.
I tried extending the olive branch a ton of times (after my aunt called me a wh*re when i was 12, stole money from my dad, tried to bribe him to divorce my mom), but clearly it's not working. We keep trying to forgive them and move on but they're still acting completely uninterested in being a part of this family.
I'm so turned off by them that I don't even want their money. How can I give it back in a firm way that isn't super rude (my problem is no longer offending them, but I don't want to hurt my father even more. And he's super hurt by how they've been acting).
Thanks for the advice!