work, bosses, colleagues, etc.

dianaloveserik

My fiance and I are both attorneys and work with a number of people. We are struggling to determine who we can/should invite in order to conform with etiquette and ensure we don't hurt anyone's feelings or start any "oh he got invited but she didn't" type gossip.

He is in a small firm about 8 attorneys and 15 support staff in his office, and he doesn't necessarily have one "boss" who he reports to, rather he works for all the partners equally and works with all the support staff pretty much equally.

I am a prosecutor; we have 25 attorneys and 50+ support staff (many of whom I don't even know). I have three bosses in that I report to my team leader, who reports to our chief, who reports to the DA.

How do we decide who to invite from work? Can we pick and choose those we are most friendly with? Do we have to invite everyone who holds the same position? Do we have to invite all our superiors? Should it be all or nothing?

Any advice that anyone can give would be appreciated. We want our wedding to be a fun special occasion and don't want to cause any drama in our workplace. Thanks everyone!!

crash2729

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-bosses-colleagues-etc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6002ccab-2849-44b5-9e4d-2dd064accbd8Post:39f658f9-5e7f-4709-8529-54d1ea2e9025">Re: work, bosses, colleagues, etc.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to work, bosses, colleagues, etc. : I think this is okay, but don't talk about the wedding at work and send the invitations to their homes. If you are worried about drama, you could also consider inving none of them.
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
Or those that you interact with outside of work.

arendiva

My advice is to invite only those that you interact with outside of work. Your wedding is an outside of work event. If it's someone you wouldn't going out for a drink or dinner with then you're fine not inviting them to your wedding. For this reason I'm not inviting anyone from work but my fiance is inviting a few wrok friends.

Jen4948

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-bosses-colleagues-etc?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6002ccab-2849-44b5-9e4d-2dd064accbd8Post:be0401eb-3f92-4c2a-88ba-bf36303ee4ff">Re: work, bosses, colleagues, etc.</a>:
[QUOTE]My advice is to invite only those that you interact with outside of work. Your wedding is an outside of work event. If it's someone you wouldn't going out for a drink or dinner with then you're fine not inviting them to your wedding. For this reason I'm not inviting anyone from work but my fiance is inviting a few wrok friends.
Posted by arendiva[/QUOTE]

This is what I would do.  I don't think you're required to invite the whole firm or even your whole department, but if you don't, you should limit whom you invite to people you have social relationships with outside of work and limit all wedding-related communications to non-work time or functions.  Otherwise, office politics can get sticky.