Question about "birthday party"

HockeyFan4

So my birthday is in a couple weeks and H asked me what I wanted to do.  I said it would be cool to have some friends over to hang out and drink.  Normally (in our circle) when people have friends over it is bring your own beer/liquor and the "host" has snacks.  It is pretty low key and people just hang out and enjoy being with each other.

H told me to send a text/fb message to who I wanted to come over (also very common in our circle).  My question is, since I am the one sending the message, should I just say "we are having people over" or should I say "we are having people over for my birthday"?

Sorry if the answer is obvious, I have summer brain going.

pokepoke27

I would just say having people over. 

MattsPenguin

I would say that it's for your birthday.  I had a party for my 30th last year.  I provided the food (make your own pizza, apps, cupcakes) and some booze.  It was a casual email invite saying "Hey!  It's my 30th, and it's on a Saturday!! Come on over!!!"  Our friends also like to bring their own booze as well. 

crash2729

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_question-about-birthday-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:602aaf72-0712-4a40-af30-05bb3fb89f23Post:a4a38872-399f-40ff-91ba-4acbd5f1c2e0">Re: Question about "birthday party"</a>:
[QUOTE]I would just say having people over. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
Me too...but I also couldn't care less about my birthday. In my family, birthdays are not a big deal. H was wanting to do something, but I have yet to get back with him on what I want to do.<div>
Since you said this is common in your social circle, what have other people done/said? </div>

aragx6

Yeah it seems frowned upon on here, but I'm an admitted birthday AW and I always send a casual invitation via text or email to friends to say "HEY, it's my birthday and I'll be drinking on the patio of my favorite bar. You should join!" I don't think personally that there's anything all that wrong with telling people it's for your birthday.

Girlie1030

I think in my group, someone else (usually spouse/SO) has always sent the email/text for any birthday gatherings.  If it's normal in your group though, go for it. 

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_question-about-birthday-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:602aaf72-0712-4a40-af30-05bb3fb89f23Post:f6b7f50e-87d1-4812-8738-5e7b9744d130">Re: Question about "birthday party"</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah it seems frowned upon on here, but I'm an admitted birthday AW and I always send a casual invitation via text or email to friends to say "HEY, it's my birthday and I'll be drinking on the patio of my favorite bar. You should join!" I don't think personally that there's anything all that wrong with telling people it's for your birthday.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

<div>I dont think there is anything wrong with it either - but it sounds like it is going to be super low key and saying "birthday party" might make people expect something a little more. </div><div>
</div><div>But I could be completely wrong, I'm only going on how my circle of friends works. </div>

HockeyFan4

thanks ladies.  I think I might slip in the birthday.... sort of like "hey we are having some people over to hang out for my birthday"....because I think some friends might make more of an effort to come if its my bday hahaha

Simply Fated

I definitely think it depends on what you and your friends are used to. My closest friends and I plan each other's birthdays. Usually it's just cake and movie night at one of our houses. 

If I get an invitation to a birthday party by the birthday girl/boy, I always decline because I'm never sure if I'm supposed to bring a gift and I think it's always weird to host a party for yourself. 

pkontk

I didn't realize it was considered uncouth to host your own bday event until TK. In our circle, the is usually a mass email or fb message, we meet at a bar to celebrate. People usually cover their food or beverages and sometimes we buy drinks for the birthday person. We had. Y bday party this past year at our apartment so we didn't have to go anywhere... We provided a lot of food and drinks, but people still brought things to share.

pkontk

Eta yeesh, sorry. Double post.

bonge

We always have a byob thing for any parties so i would add the birthday thing in there, most of my friends know i just want good food, music & people. We don't exchange gifts, if my family comes they may bring a present but they would normally. I would say you were hanging out for your birthday