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Anyone have both parents walk them down the aisle?

My parents separated when I was 3 so my mom raised me, supported me emotionally and has helped me financially through college, etc.  My dad was in and out, not completely distant, but not a meaningful presence either.  I definitely want my mom to walk me down the aisle, but leaving my dad out altogether, I think, will really upset him.  So I was considering having them both walk me, but I'm worried it will be awkward trying to walk with both of them.  Did anyone do this?  How did you hold your bouquet?  How wide did your aisle have to be?  Thanks ladies!
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Re: Anyone have both parents walk them down the aisle?

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    Well, I'm pretty sure most Jewish brides do this.

    You can also have them walk right behind you, but a little to either side.

    You could have each of them hold your arm like you are escorting them, and hold your bouquet with both hands.
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    I did. I held my bouquet in my right hand, linked arms with my dad with my left hand, and my mom linked arms with me using her left hand. I'll admit it was a little awkward but I didn't want to walk in alone with my dad either, and at the end of the day I was really happy that I included my mom. Our aisle was already very wide.
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    My friend whose wedding was last summer did this.  It wasn't awkward at all.  The aisle was wide enough for all 3 to walk down, and she just held her bouquet in one hand, while her arms were linked with each parent.
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    I'm planning on doing this so I can let you know how it goes in 6 weeks :)  Im planning on just holding my bouquet with both hands in front of me and having my parents both kind of hold my arms/link arms with me on either side.  I'm getting married outside so the chairs can be set up wherever, so I plan on telling the venue to make sure to create a large enough aisle for the three of us (which is really more like 4 when you take into account the size of my dress).
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    Here's the best pic I have of my SIL doing it:


    Sorry I don't have a closer pic, but you can see her at the back of the aisle waiting to walk up (and looking teary). So what she did was hold her bouquet, and her mom navigated linking her arm around it.

    I think lots of people do this, and it's a nice idea. I may or may not do it depending on how wide of an aisle we can manage in the elephant.
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    edited February 2010
    I did, and it worked out just fine. You can see that we are all well within the boundaries of the aisle runner:




    Looking back, I would have held my bouquet lower to not hide the top of my dress. This would have been totally doable, but my flower stems were terribly long and curved inward toward my dress, so I held them low on the stem so as to not stain my dress. Stupid flowers.



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    Thanks, especially for the photos.  I knew I could count on you guys! :)

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    Def. doable. I am having my dad & stepdad walk me down the aisle since both were a huge part of my life growing up. I like the pictures you all have shared. It helps to imagine what it will look like.
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    edited February 2010
    Also, if you're worried about the train, just be careful, my dad kinda almost stepped on mine (as you can see). But we were careful:




    TR, I'm sorry you are having to worry about this. I think if you can negotiate that their potential discomfort wouldn't override your feeling supported by having them on either side of you, then do it. My parents not only walked me down the aisle, but propped me up because I was so shaky and lightheaded. It made my day to have them there to do that with me.




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    I did this too...might have pics in my bio, as I can't get the pics here at work.  It worked out fine and was definitely sweet.
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    Angie, I like the idea of the groom being walked down the aisle too. 
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    edited February 2010
    I did this.  We had stairs leading to the aisle.  My parents walked down, I walked down and met them.  My mom was slightly to the back so I could easily slip in.  They each took a wrist (this left space for my dress and train to not be stepped on) and I walked with my bouquet using both hands.  Yup, I should have lowered mine too - oh well.

    You can see them arranging here:



    All good here (ignore dad's face - he was afraid to step anywhere near me he kept looking down)


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    I walked with my brother and grandfather (my father had passed away the year before, and I know he would have loved that I had his dad and his son in his place).

    I held my bouquet with both hands, and they each grabbed an arm.
    Here's a pic:




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