What would you do?

millejj1

So I was feeling good because the invites are out and RSVP's are coming in and then I remembered our interns at work....

I'm the intern coordinator at my office and have a group of eight interns that are going to be with us all year.  I've been working with them since September and they are all great people.  We've had enough no's that I could include them in the wedding.  I thought great, let's do it.

Here is where it get's tricky.  We have twelve more coming on board the first week of March (2 weeks before the wedding!! orientation and housing on top of wedding planning eek!) and we don't have enough spaces to invite the additional 12.

My question is..do you think it would be appropriate for me to only invite the original 8?  I feel like because I've been with them for 6 months at that point it should be ok especially since the new people weren't here when invitations went out.  On the other hand though, I feel like it wouldn't be professional for me, as the program lead, to only invite some of the interns.

What would you ladies do?

Thanks!

alixzafiris

Why would you invite people you'll have known for TWO WEEKS to your wedding? That's beyond stupid.

laurenclaire1386

No, it wouldn't be professional. All or none, doesn't matter how new they are. If I were you, I'd just scrap inviting your interns from work.

cengle

I think if you want to invite the current 8 interns, that's fine. I highly doubt the 12 that start 2 weeks before the wedding will expect an invitation.  Won't you have to have your final headcount by then anyway? 
Just keep in mind SOs for those 8 interns, so those 8 could potentially mean 16 more guests.

danieliza1127

I wouldn't invite any of them.  There is no obligation to invite co-workers, especially interns who you likely will never see again once their internship is up.  I think as their supervisor, it's important to keep a boundary between your professional life and your personal life.  I especially think you should not invite people who are starting just two weeks before your wedding.  They are complete strangers and I think it would be really weird and awkward if you invited them to your wedding when you don't even know them.  Your wedding is not a work or networking event. 

Now if you socialize with these people outside of work at non-work-related events, then maybe you could/should invite them, but if not then don't.

betrothed123

I wouldn't invite your coworkers at all.  Avoid the potential problems of being seen as playing favorites.

SwedishChick2011

I think it's fine to just invite the 8 interns you already have.  I'm assuming you don't even know these 12 new interns yet since they're not arriving until 2 weeks before the wedding.  It would be more weird to invite the extra 12, in my opinion.

crfische

Jim and Pam invited everyone, so that's clearly the standard. Your boss should give everyone the day off.

Kati0105

I wouldn't invite any of them.  There is no obligation to invite co-workers, especially interns who you likely will never see again once their internship is up.

I'm in this camp.  IMO wedding guests should be people who have played a significant role in your life or your FI's life, not someone you just happen to be working with for a set period of time.  I'm only inviting one coworker, and we have become close friends and hang out outside of work with our S/Os.

vallyhoo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:610f6ac9-c64b-41f7-b701-769cc4979cb4Post:73aee192-5910-4a43-b879-a438555a3f14">Re: What would you do?</a>:
[QUOTE]Your boss should give everyone the day off.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

And sleep with your mom.

crfische

FTW!!!!

vallyhoo

I couldn't do it without you Fischita.

SarahPLiz

I wouldnt invite any of them. Interns can't afford gifts <--- snark

No, really, I wouldn't invite any of them. You are under no obligation to invite any co-workers.

iamjoesgurl

Chances are that the additional interns wouldn't feel comfortable at your wedding anyway since they don't really know you.  I agree with pps that you should leave them off the list.

tenofcups4me

I think it's fine to invite the 8 and not at all necessary to invite the new batch, who you won't know at all by the time of your wedding.

But like some others, I question if you really want to invite the 8. How much of a real relationship do you have with them?

eastunder1

Why would you invite people you have only known for two weeks in a non-personal work setting to your wedding?  It's not a come one come all keggar, its a wedding, FFS. 

I can't even grasp the thought proccess on people sometimes.  Its baffling to me.