Absent vs. in memoriam

cpblanco

So I'm working on program wording (we need programs, the ceremony will be in three languages, so most everyone will be lost at some point), and I'm wondering how (if?) to include 2 of our grandmothers. Neither can attend the ceremony, so is there a standard way of listing these two close relatives who aren't actually in attendance? I'd like to list our 6 other deceased grandparents in a memorial section, so obviously it seems weird to have a section for them but not for our living grandmothers. Thoughts?

Avion22

Where you list the parents and grandparents in the program, you can say something like "Mrs. Louise Miller -- grandmother of the bride (unable to attend)". For those who couldn't make the trip. I would do an "in memoriam" SETI on for those who have passed.

strlzfan11

I'd list them right below your parents in the program.

ETA: I wouldn't label them as being unable to attend.

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:Absent vs. in memoriam:[QUOTE]I'd list them right below your parents in the program.ETA: I wouldn't label them as being unable to attend. Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. People will understand when they don't walk down the aisle that the grandparents just couldn't attend. No need to say they aren't there.

cpblanco

Thanks for these ideas!!

Simply Fated

I agree with pps to leave off the fact that they aren't there. It's unnecessary information. Those who know they can't come don't need to be told they aren't there. And those who see they aren't in attendance in the programs are going to wonder why, leaving more questions than answers.

cpblanco

All good points. Thanks girls!