Uninvited child guests

galaxyhitchhiker03

A guest rsvp'd for the wedding. Attending 7 people. Strange thing is we only invited her, her hubby, and the oldest living-at-home children (18ish, 16ish) but not the young ones (10ish, 5ish, and infant) because this is a NO CHILDREN ALLOWED/ADULTS ONLY party. The invite was very carefully addressed to have the names of those invited, it did not say 'and family' or any such thing. Pretty sure we followed the rules. My mother says there isn't anything to do about it other than hope that someone else can't attend and will open up space for them. So now we have 3 too many people and one possibly screaming baby during the ceremony.... Do I just ignore it and move on with my life? suggestions? comments?

ShyDreamer00

I would definitely address the issue as the same topic came up while my fi and I were doing our invitations. We decided that the only "young" children there would be our daughter (who will be almost 2 at the time of the wedding and is a flower girl), his sisters, brothers, and his first cousins (some are under the age of 16).
Our invitation envelopes will be specifically directed towards those invited and even the RSVP cards will say: "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" so that we can fill in the number of guests.
We also created a website which suggests for those out of town guests or even guests with children who need a babysitter that we will be providing a FREE one at the hotel nearby if needed, but they need to let us know by a certain date. My parents are paying for ALL of the wedding except the alcohol (my FI and I are paying for that). There will be around 200 guests and while I love my relatives, I don't want 20 additional kids running around. They are cute and make things fun, but in small numbers/doses.
We also let my FMIL aware that we were not inviting children or the children of 1st cousins, 2nd cousins, etc to the wedding and that she would have to handle any backlash regarding that. His side is Puerto Rican and so there are generally alot of kids at every function. There will be those who grumble or get upset, but those are also probably the people who don't really want to come or won't bother to bring a gift (not that gifts are what it is all about, but they are nice to receive).
Anyways, hope it all works out for you, but don't let it go as you don't want to have a higher number of guests than expected