guest asking to bring friends

shayna25

So my friend from college is coming to our wedding.  We invited her and her daughter plus a guest.  She has already rsvp'd that she and a guest will be coming.  Now, 9 days out from the wedding, she is asking to bring 3 people with her (not including her daughter).  Our caterer only needs 3 -4 days notice, so the catering is not an issue.  However, FI and I do not want a lot of strangers at our wedding.  She is not currently in my good graces, so I am trying to hold myself back and stay polite.   How do I tell her politely that we don't want a bunch of her party friends crashing our wedding?

pearlaqua

She doesn't know that your caterer doesn't need to know and tell her that you can only accomodate the previously agreed-upon number.

TheWeddingBunny

Just tell her that you are not able to accommadate additional guests.

I say do not give a "reason" as that invites argument, just say no.

banana468

Just tell her no.  You budgeted for a guest - not an entourage.

kmmssg

Who DOES this stuff?  Agree with the others - call and tell her you can't accomodate her guests, but  you do not owe her a reason.

niquemel

" Sorry, no. The caterer deadline for the final numbers has already passed, nothing I can do about it"

SOOOOO RUDE OF HER!!!

J&K10910

Don't give her a reason unless she specifically asks.  You don't need to explain.  Just say "I'm so sorry, but we can only accommodate those originally invited."  And then change the subject.

shayna25

thank you everyone for the suggestions! I was just so worried about coming off rude.  I just told her that we already have everything booked according to the rsvps, and it can't be changed.  I was just so blown away by her asking to bring 3 friends.  I understand that she probably doesn't know wedding etiquette at all....but dang, I would never ask to do that at someone's wedding.