Wedding Etiquette Forum

Munchies and Menu

I'm not sure how I should do this. After the ceremony I was planning on going in and signing the marriage licence, but then I was thinking about the processional line, or what ever you call it. That means that after the parents and us walk out we are lining up to shake guests hands and all of those little things that come with it. So that means after that we would have to go in and sign the marriage license.

Everything is at one location. We are getting married outside and the reception is in the dance hall barn. I have already decided that we are taking all of our pictures before the ceremony for time reasons. So when we are signing the marriage licence and having a few minutes to ourselves do we have to offer a full spread of appetizers? I'm planning on have the guests being offered a glass of punch of water when they come in and then I was thinking about putting nuts on the table, but I'm worried about a nut allergy. I'm sure that my guests don't have one, but I really don't want to risk it.

In all honesty, it is just going to be a few minutes, and then we will start the reception. We will come in, say the prayer, and then start going through the buffet line.

Another thing is should I put the menu in the wedding program, because I also want to put almost like a schedule in a way.  I want to state what is being served, that they can help themselves to all the beverages at any time and enjoy the cookie and candy buffet.

So do I offer munchies right before we eat and do I put a menu/schedule in the wedding programs?

Re: Munchies and Menu

  • I wouldn't put the menu in the wedding program. We put our menu on our wedding website. If you are just going to be gone a couple minutes to sign the certificate, I don't think you need to worry about a spread of appetizers. Your parents or DJ or someone could announce that people can go ahead and help themselves to the drinks and treats. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • We signed our license about 2 minutes before the ceremony began. The officiant walked over to each of us to have it signed by us and our witnesses.
  • Just wanted to chime in as someone with a nut allergy.  I think it's fine if you want to put nuts out.  Just make sure they are in a separate bowl as the other food, and I wouldn't encourage people to crush peanut shells on the floor with their shoes.  (I have seen this at some bars and casual events, and it spreads the allergens into the air in a way that can be harmful).  If you do peanuts, just put another bowl out for shells.
    Most people with nut allergies don't get offended when we see them out.  We are used to it and just avoid them :) 
  • How about bowls of nuts and separate bowls of nut-free something like Chex mix or the "pub mix" (from Walmart or Sam's -- has pretzels, bagel chips, Cheez-it-style crackers, etc.)?  Satisfies the munchies without creating another whole set of preparations.
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